Speak Now: Meeting People in Boston

I’ve been in love with the city of Boston since I first took the train in on a Monday morning back in December 2016. For some reason, I always instinctively knew I would like Boston. When I was little, I remember thinking “Boston would be a good idea.” Sure, I’m intuitive, but it did take the influence of a mailman from Massachusetts to give me the confidence to make the move.

I was attracted to the beauty of the city, the New England vibe, and of course, the coast. A perfect mix of city and nature, Boston seemed like just the city for me.

I was right- it is. However, I have always had one major complaint:

Men don’t talk to you.

This is a far cry from what I’m used to in New York City. I couldn’t even step out for my Lenny’s Bagel in the morning without a catcall or a smile from a stranger. Here, I’m lucky to have someone even turn their head or look me in the eye.

I’ve dated a handful of guys who are from other cities and even countries, so they don’t count. They’re from elsewhere. However, the people I have met from Boston are either:

  • Married
  • Pompous
  • So into Boston sports that they don’t know women exist

This cycle has to be broken at some point. Right? Is it really them, or has it been me being closed off? One can’t be sure.

However, it would be nice to have someone smile at me on the street or sit by me in the park- someone who actually lives here- and have a nice conversation. Right? I don’t think that’s too much to ask.

I met endless guys when I lived in New York, but it just wasn’t the place for me at that time. I also had yet to learn and acknowledge who I really was. Now, that I’ve done nearly two years of introspection, I’m ready to meet someone who appreciates me for me.

So, this is my open letter to Boston. Speak now, because I promise, it’s better than being closed off… and I know that first hand.

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Open Your Heart: The Gateway to Joy

I’ve recently learned that willingness brings an entirely new reality to life. What do I mean, you ask?

Ever since coming to Boston I’ve been pretty closed off. It’s been a time of awakening and learning about myself- and becoming the person I was meant to be. It’s been a great experience, from the good to the bad, and I’ve documented it here since the very first week.

However, I was extremely leery of letting people in. An example of this was when I made my very first friend, but kept her at a distance. She was also my roommate and the kindest soul- but I didn’t yet feel I was worthy of her friendship and love.

Now, over a year and a half later, that has changed. I’ve let her into my darkest moments as well as brought my own light to our friendship. I’ve come full circle, and since arriving in Boston, I’ve made several other amazing friends as well.

Just the other day I was in the park chatting with my friend in Michigan. We share a birthday and have a lot in common, but our outside worlds are completely different. She’s married with three kids, while I’m single without any family in the area. Her kindness and support has helped me immensely through these past few months, and after talking with her, something clicked.

I don’t want to be alone any longer.

I used to think that being alone was a strength- which it is- but now that I’ve learned to be happy with myself, I’m ready to share it with someone else.

A few moments later I heard a voice nearby, asking me if I minded if they sat on the bench where I was at. The old Kristin may have scoffed them off or avoided talking to them while sitting in the park, but this Kristin invited them over. We ended up talking for an hour, roamed around Boston, and even went to a Red Sox game. My very first Red Sox game!

It was a magical day. I couldn’t believe that simply telling my friend that I was finally willing to let people in would give me an opportunity to do so- and even though it was simply a step, it was a step in the right direction. I didn’t let my ego get in the way, didn’t have fear, and went back to my childlike joy.

Ever since that day, I’ve been more mindful of my old thought patterns and have opened up to the idea of letting people in- in any capacity. I used to be so afraid of getting hurt that I opted to spend all of my time alone, and was even fearful of losing a job, friend, or romantic relationship… so my heart was closed off.

I’ve finally been learning who I truly am, and I know it’s not that hard, indifferent person I have been playing for so long. The people closest to me have known who I was all along, despite the exterior, and they’ve proven that to me by sticking by my side and loving me through the hard times.

Who knows what the future will bring, but I do know one thing- my heart is open.

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Growth: How Intuition and Awakening Cause Big Changes

It’s hard to explain why my life has changed so much so many different times these past 10 years. Part of it has to do with being a free spirited young adult, yet today it finally clicked.

As I have changed, and as my spiritual awakening has been happening, the things around me have changed right along with it.

I happen to be a highly intuitive and clairvoyant person, so my gut always tells me or sabotages a situation I know isn’t right. As my consciousness grows and as I stop mixing the messages from society and the outside world, I catch myself. I question big life factors. And, abruptly, I make a change. Although most people don’t understand this or may call my changes erratic, to me they make perfect sense in the end.

From changes such as calling off a wedding and moving to San Francisco from my home state (I had never lived anywhere else at that point) to quitting jobs or moving apartments, change is no stranger to me.

With each change, I move closer to my purpose.

With each fall, I emerge even stronger.

I learn, I feel, and I grow. I listen to my heart center today and do the best I can without letting the outside world sway me any longer.

For years, I listened too much to others- not from the divine guidance from source, which manifests in my life as intuition and synchronicities.

I’m happy to finally realize this for myself, but it sure has been difficult to explain to others- but I know I don’t have to today.

and, when you listen to your intuition, sometimes even a little magic happens.

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