For years I compared myself to other people and their achievements.
I remember being surrounded by my boyfriend and his friends while living in San Francisco, feeling “less than” because they all had MBAs and advanced degrees. I was envious of their grad school bonds, longing to have something more for myself in California.
So, I started studying for the LSAT.
Did I really want to become an attorney? Not really. However, I thought I needed a fancy title or a degree to prove I was smart. That I was strong. That I was worthy.
I ended up taking the test, not even wanting to go to law school. I knew in my heart I was meant to do something creative, but I lacked the confidence to put myself out there.
I left San Francisco in 2009, only to return again eight months later. This time around, however, I didn’t strap myself down to a relationship- but I did start a blog.
A lot of people didn’t understand my city shenanigans or the purpose for my writing. Nevertheless, it gave me the confidence I needed to start to put myself out there. I connected with Yelp reviewers, entrepreneurs, and startups. I went to fun restaurants and worked all sorts of events, from Shecky’s Girl’s Night Out, WonderCon, and the Cannabis Festival. I started to learn I didn’t need a degree or title to do what I love.
I could simply be me.
It’s hard to believe this all started ten years ago.
I’ve kept in touch with the friends I’ve made in California, whether they’re still in the city or have done something different with their own lives.
I’ll forever be grateful to the people who believed in me and saw my power before I saw it on my own.
We can compare ourselves to other people all day long, but the key is knowing who you are as a person and what to you want. Our differences are what make the world go round, whether you’re saving lives, raising a family, or running a company.
The beauty in our differences is what can connect us, help us learn, and grow as human beings. I may not have chosen to help people seek justice in the legal system, but I do know my own experiences help other people gain the confidence to pursue what’s in their own heart.