How to Boost Self Confidence

As I begin to work with a new client, I gave her a simple exercise to complete for me today:

List 20 things you like about yourself.

This seems simple enough, right? I did this exercise for myself yesterday as I sat on the beach and put together a program to help her shift her perspective and see herself through a new lens.

The first step to changing your view is to focus on the positives.

It’s so easy to pick at your flaws and view all of the negative aspects of yourself or your life. However, when you focus on the good, it’s amazing how much better, well rounded, and positive you feel in all areas of your life.

After I receive her list, we will begin to expand on each point she listed. Everyone is different, and everyone has their own unique talents and gifts.

I’m here to help show each and every woman they are worthy of love, success, and happiness- but it all starts from within.

Spreading the Message of Self Love

People always seem to come in your life at just the right time. This morning, that’s what happened to me. ✨

After getting a message from a friend out of the blue, we had a great conversation about self confidence, empowerment, and body image. She explained how self doubt is negatively impacting certain areas of her life, including her relationship with her boyfriend.

Instead of trusting in his love for her, she constantly questions whether or not she is worthy of his affection. To me, of course, this seems ridiculous. She’s a beautiful, talented, fun girl- and I wish she saw herself through my eyes. Nevertheless, I said to her:

“Remember: You are enough.”

I was told this over a year ago by a special friend, but it took me a while to understand what she meant. Now I get it- we all have our own unique talents and gifts, and we can’t be everything to everyone- however, it’s important to love and be enough for ourselves.

I could tell her this 20 times every day, but ultimately, she needs to believe it for herself.

Without a solid foundation, reframing your thoughts, and seeing life through a new lens, it’s hard to believe in yourself. Paralyzing, even. Through my own experiences and mindfulness journey, I’m confident I will be able to help her, and others, shift their perspectives and see themselves in a different light. I hope to help her develop so much confidence that it won’t matter to her what her boyfriend or his family thinks. She will love herself so much that she would be able to take or leave outside validation.

Now, I would never say, “ditch the guy!” or state that someone should be alone, but for my own happiness, I had to spend nearly four years on my own. I had to relearn who Kristin was. Sure, I dated (which provided great lessons), but I haven’t been in a relationship since 2014. I’ve learned to love myself, appreciate being on my own, and because of this, I am confident I will bring that much more to my next relationship because I know who I am.

Wherever you’re at in your own life, it’s important to remember that you must set a foundation to build upon before trying to grow. Whether it be with your relationship, family, career, or health, I am here to help give you the tools to feel at peace no matter what your situation.

Once you’re happy with yourself, the world becomes much more clear. Miracles begin to happen. And, ultimately, you’ll thrive- no matter what that means to you.

By combining skills I have learned through spiritual guides, DBT therapy, mindfulness, journaling, thought reframing, and my own intuition, I am looking forward to helping more and more women find their own beautiful life worth living- and time will tell how that will manifest. 💞

The Path To Becoming Your Authentic Self


When you’re on the path to becoming the person you are meant to be, there will be many road blocks and challenges along the way.  Just because you may see the world differently doesn’t mean everyone around you will, too! 

Think of these road blocks as tests to challenge you and to see whether you are on the right path, or whether you have fallen into your old habits.  Are you handling these situations as you would have before, or have you developed new skills to better handle them?  It’s important to maintain a high frequency despite the bad energy that comes your way- these low vibes want you to fall to their level.  Don’t let them!  I have learned that the low vibes will continue to stick around until you show the universe that you won’t let them disrupt your positive energy. 

I’ve also experienced a lot of discomfort while making positive life changes over the past year.  It hasn’t been easy to live authentically, but I know that change is necessary for growth, learning, and my overall happiness.  

I’ve noticed several “growing pains” that, although uncomfortable, have been signs that I’m on the right path to authenticity.  Have you experienced any of these, too?

Becoming A Loner 

I’ve been much more comfortable in my own company over the past year.  I used to fill my social calendar with events, happy hours, coffee meetups, and dates- especially when I felt a void in my life.  

I’ve never been afraid of being by myself, though.  In fact, most of my life I have preferred it.  So why is it hard for me to sit with myself when I am feeling uncomfortable?  Over the past year I have sat with many feelings of loneliness- but those feelings were an indication that I needed to work on my relationship with myself (the greatest relationship of all!).

Cutting Off Unhealthy Relationships 

I would much rather live a peaceful life than spend my time combatting energy vampires!  I used to constantly give multiple chances to people who have made me feel bad about myself or tried to steal my joy, but life is too short.  I value myself and my time today.  Sadly, I have had to cut off many people, simply because they were not in alignment with the energy I want to exude. Today I am no longer comfortable with spending time with Negative Nancy’s who will find problems wherever they go. 

Boredom

Now what?  Once you have cut the negative energy and chaos out if your life, you may find yourself wondering “what’s next?”  Your life used to be filled with drama and excitement, but now it’s just… life.  And that’s okay.  I’ve begun to enjoy uneventful days and quiet evenings much more than I used to.  It may take a while to grow accustomed to this lifestyle change, but know that you’re on the right path to becoming the best you. 

Health Becomes More Important

I didn’t think a lot about my health when I was unhappy with myself.  How could I be? If I didn’t value myself, I certainly wasn’t concerned about caring for my body.  Something began to change, though- as I became happier with myself, I started to eat better.  Getting sufficient sleep became more important, too.  I used to live off little sleep, coffee, and nervous energy- but now I know that it only causes me to be grumpy, irritable, and impatient.  As I become more mindful of my body in the short term, I’m caring for my body in the long term, too.

You Feel More Feelings

Have you been feeling more emotional?  It’s possible that you have been numbing your true feelings with busyness, relationships, work, or addictions.  Have you faced your emotions or have you been masking them?

If your answer is, “I’ve faced them,” great!  Now you are much closer to overall awareness and self actualization.  There’s a good chance you haven’t faced these feelings, though.  In order to grow, you must recognize your emotions.  You no longer have to push them under the rug or be afraid of your feelings- vulnerability can be a gift in the healing process. 

You Become More Self Aware

Not only have you become more aware of your feelings, you’ve become more aware of who you are as a person, too.  You know your faults and the traits you want to work on.  You’ve acknowledged what is healthy for your life and what you will no longer accept.  

You’re Unapologetically You

You are what you are- and you won’t apologize for it!  I used to be a chameleon and fit in with many groups of people, but although this characteristic is helpful in business and basic social situations, I am much more selective about who I allow in my life today.  I wouldn’t want to fit in with everyone!  The people I surround myself with bring out my positive attributes, not tear them down.

When you’re in alignment with the person you are meant to be, you won’t fit in like you did before.  You will see the world much clearer, more serene, and with a sense of purpose.  The noise from the outside world will no longer affect you so much and you will begin to find ways to improve the world around you, not complain about it.  As you continue to discover your true self, remember that the positives far outweigh the negatives.  Although it can be uncomfortable at first, keep doing you- you’ll thank yourself later.