Dream Big: Turning Blog Posts Into A Solid Foundation

Along the path of life, people may misunderstand your journey or doubt your dreams.

When I decided to move to San Francisco in 2008, months before the stock market crashed and prior to a publicly traded Facebook, an acquaintance scoffed at me saying, “well, that will be cheap.”

Within two weeks of this comment, I got a job at a popular tech startup downtown SF and was living in a rent-controlled apartment in Laurel Heights- even less than what some friends in Metro Detroit were paying- because for me, it’s always about thinker smarter, not harder.

What would have happened if I would have taken his comment to heart?

What would have happened in the course of my life had I held back from my cross- country moves, calling off a wedding, quitting jobs I was selling my soul for, or walking away from people who didn’t value me-

all because of what someone who barely knows me had to say?

Had I not moved to SF, I never would have gotten homesick the next year and moved to Austin. I wouldn’t have met some amazing people in Texas who I’m still in touch with today, and I probably wouldn’t have decided to move back to San Francisco had I not lived such a great life the first time around.

But in 2010, I was different. I had discovered blogging, sharing my stories online, and documenting my daily activities. I realized how powerful connection is- and how you don’t have to be involved in a local community to feel a sense of home; home is wherever you feel understood. 

People doubted the San Francisco Giants that year, too. But we all know how that turned out. Fall of 2010, I drove back to the city after a work trip in Lake Tahoe, high on life after quitting an office manager job in data security. With my rental car windows down and the music on, I felt free- but I didn’t know what the rocky road of creative freedom would bring months and years into this journey.


The same person who mocked my California move asked to meet with me years later about marketing his company, as he saw my work and experience from San Francisco.

I couldn’t work with someone who once doubted me.

Over the years, I learned an important lesson the hard way: You don’t need to try to explain or justify anything to anyone when you make choices in life! Those who resonate with your path will find you- but it’s not your job to explain. 

You can simply show them.

For now, try to ignore the negative or fear-based distractions and keep aiming high- the only limitation you have is what others try to project onto you- and what you believe. ✨ You have your own foundation to build upon.


The “Dream Big, Darling” rock was created from a post I wrote back in 2017, inspired by a Primark sweatshirt and a day planner from the Harvard Coop.

You Don’t Have to Contribute to the Negative Conversations

In our lifetime, we have never seen an event such as the Coronavirus pandemic.

In my 35 years on this planet, never have I walked down city streets in the middle of a Tuesday afternoon to find everything closed with barely a person on sight. As I safely left my home to lay rocks outside of businesses and in hidden spots downtown, I stopped to think about how others are feeling.

With a smile on my face, feeling full of purpose, I paused to considered those who haven’t quite seen the light at the end of the tunnel.

My heart goes out to the restaurant owners, retailers, and businesses who have halted their daily routine to flatten the curve. That’s why I am focusing my energy on doing what I can to help- even if it’s small.

You are stronger than you realize.


I thought about what we can control in terms of our media consumption and the conversations we have with family or friends (check out a post I wrote a couple of years ago about how you’re lowering your energetic vibration without even realizing it).

What are we focusing on? Fear? Financial insecurity? Health concerns?

Many of us feel compelled to join the negative conversations and will embrace some of their fear- much of which isn’t your own.

That’s why we need to focus on the helpers, not the problem.

I read an amazing article by author Steve Pavlina, who shared his views on the importance of lightworkers in today’s society:

“The lightworker’s duty is to serve the health of the body. Lightworkers strive for a healthy, sane humanity. They’re like white blood cells fighting diseases such as cruelty, apathy, depression, disempowerment, dishonesty, and cowardice. Such diseases damage the health of the body. The #1 disease lightworkers battle is fear. Wherever there is fear in the body of humanity, lightworkers are driven to respond.”


Yesterday I chatted with a few friends who are visibly concerned about their health and safety. I am, too. However, my focus isn’t on the news and the negativity. It’s about focusing on what I can do in the now.

We all have a choice of what messages we want to send- do we want to spread the fear, or send light?

Do you want to look at the problem or the solution?

Even though we have to stay home, there is so much we can do both online and within our own homes to raise the overall vibration- and choosing what conversations you partake in is a part of this.

I am doing my best to be mindful of the energy I am putting out- and instead of fear, I have faith.

Positive People: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

“Stay positive” has been a common term loosely used in day-to-day life, often by people who say they’re positive, yet act the opposite. Although the power of our thoughts and words are a major component in personal growth, the way one acts around others plays an even bigger part in the Power of Positivity.

Positive thinkers aren’t just people who avoid negative thoughts- they are people who know how to handle the negativity rather than avoiding it.

So, what else makes a person positive? Over the years I’ve thought about this quite often- especially when navigating my own challenges in life. Here are a few things I’m still working on myself, and may even help you along your own journey.

They Go With The Flow

Positive thinkers know they can’t control each and every situation. Instead of causing a fit when things don’t go their way, they find meaning and lessons in everyday life.

They Grow From Experiences

Have you ever noticed how the same challenges pop up in your life, but manifest in different forms? Whether it’s the sexist boss or the obnoxious roommate, you’ll continue to encounter these people until you learn how to handle them in a new, more productive way. The universe is funny like that.

They Admit When They’re Wrong

Positive thinkers are able to push their egos aside. They know when and how to be humble, and are comfortable admitting their shortcomings- especially when it affects the feelings of those around them.

They Know How to Say No

This is extremely important- setting healthy boundaries can be crucial to maintaining friendships and honoring one’s own self care. People pleasing may seem like the easier route, but will wear you out in the long run. It’s better to be honest and say “no” than to build resentments.

They Don’t Change Around Other People

Positive thinkers stay true to themselves around everyone in their life. They hold strong to their opinions, but don’t take offense when others don’t agree.

It takes a lot of practice to handle negative people or situations, but when you discover your truth- and walk in it- your life flows more effortlessly. You will no longer take everything so personally, not will the opinions of others matter so much.

When you love you, magical things start to happen.

“She’s already had everything she needs within herself. It’s the world that convinced her she did not.” -Rupi Kaur

The Law of Attraction: Love Yourself More

Just when you thought you loved yourself, go ahead- love yourself a little more.

We are all conscious creators on this planet, but many of us fail to realize the power of our thoughts and feelings.  Our society encourages us to take action, to see progress, and to quantify our successes, but no results can take place if you don’t truly care for yourself on the inside.

Be your own biggest fan.

The world quickly changes when you realize your greatest success is fearlessly loving yourself.

Life will effortlessly fall into place when you care for, love, and respect the you that you were born to be.  Everyone will have an opinion- but what is your own opinion about yourself?

Look within and listen to your heart.

Who do you want to be?

Once you know and embody the true you, you’ll see a change- a change within, a change around you, and a change in how you are treated.  Once you treat yourself with the loving kindness you deserve, remarkable things will shine through.

Here is a great manifestation video from Aaron Doughty- 2019 is a powerful year for attracting what you desire.  Get into your passion frequency, but first, it all starts with self-love!

11/11/18: A Powerful Day Of Manifestation

Did you know 11/11/18 is one of the most powerful days for manifestation?

2018 is an 11 year (2 + 0 + 1 + 8 = 11), which holds the energy of creation, spiritual enlightenment, and authentic expression. With three 11’s in the date, the energy is amplified, being three times as powerful.

Even the actual shape of the number 11 represents a gateway; if you notice, you’ll see how 11 looks like two pillars. This gateway is a direct portal between divine inspiration and grounded manifestation.

Do you ever wonder why you continually receive the same ideas over and over, but haven’t acted on them? Perhaps you see all the signs, have repeating thoughts, or hear messages from others reminding you of these ideas. For me, my own passion for helping others through writing has manifested over the years, but I continue to wonder how to take it further. What is the universe telling me? Even more importantly, how do I act on it to bring my ideas to life?

I have big goals and dreams, and I know you do too.

11/11 is the time to stop, meditate, and ask for guidance.

Think about what your heart truly desires. What signs keep leading you in that direction? What actions can you take now to bring your ideas to life?

For 11/11, there are many steps you can take to manifest your divine inspiration into reality.

First, clear your energy. You can do this through meditation, smudging (I recommend white sage), lighting incense, or clearing your aura with crystals. Clear Quartz is a powerful crystal for clearing work as well as amplifying the energy of your own spirit and the other crystals in your collection.

Next, find a quiet space to write down your dreams and goals. Focus on what you do want, not the things you don’t. Whether you write these goals down or create a vision board, your creative efforts will be recognized by the universe and the spirit guides who help lead you on the right path.

Now, ask for guidance. Meditation is a powerful way to let your guides know your intentions. I try and meditate for at least a half hour every day- sometimes longer. By centering my mind and spirit, I am able to clear the outside noise and connect with my higher, authentic self- the self I am meant to be.

It’s common to be confused about what your heart actually desires when society can sway you in many different directions. Meditation assists in reaching into your soul, not media messages or what someone else’s opinion is.

This 11/11, tap into what your soul’s calling is, and visualize the future you wish to manifest. Your thoughts are powerful, and so is your ability to create a life you love. ✨

Saturday Self Care: The Power of Positive Thinking

Good morning from the Mystic River!

It finally cooled down here in Medford- thank goodness! 🙂 As usual, I walked down to the river to enjoy my coffee and write. Whenever I feel a bit stir crazy or my mind runs a million miles a minute, there’s nothing like nature to ground me and calm down my thoughts.

It’s a busy Saturday here, so I wanted to start the day off on the right foot by stepping outside of myself and sharing some tools that help me tackle a hectic schedule, negative thoughts, or worries.

I have a few meetings today and wanted to put my mind in the right place before I started overthinking or questioning myself. We could work on ourselves each and every day, but we are only human. Focusing on what we are grateful for, what we like about ourselves, and what we can offer others is huge and makes a world of difference when combating any negative thoughts.

Let’s do a little exercise. Grab a pen, a piece of paper, and get your imagination ready. Writing never fails to help me set the tone for the day, and I’m confident it will help you, too.

First,

  • Write 10 things you’re grateful for
  • Write 10 qualities you like about yourself

This seems simple, doesn’t it? You would be surprised. I have spoken with many others who have told me it’s a challenge to think of their positive attributes. Although this is so surprising to me (we seem to see ourselves in a much more critical light than those around us!), many people aren’t used to thinking this way.

Society tries to tell us we aren’t enough- that we need more money, more material items, more recognition. We are told our lives must look a certain way to be happy. We are taught as young girls that we are princesses, and a handsome prince is the key to happiness. What happens when we don’t get those things? What if a prince wasn’t supposed to save us after all?

When we realize happiness comes from within, we learn we must save ourselves.

💞

Now, once you’re done, think about those 20 things above.

  • Write 5 things you can do to benefit others today.

Yes, helping others is a huge form of self care. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture; it could be simply buying someone a coffee or paying a compliment. It could be giving advice, being a listening ear, or helping someone with a chore.

No matter how big or small, kindness is contagious- and the world needs more of it.

I’d love to hear your own lists and how your Saturday goes. By sharing your own inspiration, you inspire those around you, too!

Have a beautiful day. ✨

How to Boost Self Confidence

As I begin to work with a new client, I gave her a simple exercise to complete for me today:

List 20 things you like about yourself.

This seems simple enough, right? I did this exercise for myself yesterday as I sat on the beach and put together a program to help her shift her perspective and see herself through a new lens.

The first step to changing your view is to focus on the positives.

It’s so easy to pick at your flaws and view all of the negative aspects of yourself or your life. However, when you focus on the good, it’s amazing how much better, well rounded, and positive you feel in all areas of your life.

After I receive her list, we will begin to expand on each point she listed. Everyone is different, and everyone has their own unique talents and gifts.

I’m here to help show each and every woman they are worthy of love, success, and happiness- but it all starts from within.

Lessons From a Yoga Class

Last night after work I went to yoga to recenter and unwind. Instead of focusing on an intention when we began, the teacher suggested we think about something we’re good at or proud of.  She shared a story about her stellar ability to parallel park; although everyone laughed, her point was understood.

We need to celebrate all our positive qualities, not just pick out the negative.

We are our worst critics.  After busy days at work, responsibilities, and (for some) families to care for, we can easily feel we’re slacking in certain areas of our lives or not living up to our potential.  Sometimes we need to focus on those little things- those tiny victories- to help get us through the day.   We may beat ourselves up for mistakes or flaws, but she reminded us to focus on what your own parallel parking is.

Yoga taught me several lessons last night.  Certain positions were uncomfortable; I felt wobbly and weak, but remembered: next time will be better.  That was why I was there- to gain strength, mentally and physically- not because it was supposed to be easy.

Life is like that, too.

At one point the instructor came up to me and helped me with a pose, which normally would make me feel embarrassed or uncomfortable- but last night it didn’t.  I felt grateful.  My ego wasn’t on the forefront- I was there to learn and to grow.

That’s what life is all about.

As yoga came to a close, she said to the class: “My goal for all of you is to stop moving out of habit.”

Then, in my mind I thought, “stop moving out of habit- move out of purpose.”

We run around all day, multitask, cross off to-do lists, and fill our calendars.  But do we really need to be moving?  Maybe, just maybe, we can take a deep breath and slow down.  We can focus on those things we do well, and continue to grow in the things we need to improve.

Our egos are merely an illusion; are we moving to keep up with our neighbors, or because we have a purpose?  Are we trying to impress those around us, or are we following our own hearts?

Setting intentions that are true to you and remembering all of your gifts and talents is so important on a daily basis.  In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we need to remember what’s going right, not wrong.

Last night I focused on my strengths, went easy on myself for not being “perfect,” and accepted the help that was offered to me. I’m going into this Wednesday with a grateful heart and open mind- although certain poses may be uncomfortable, we’re building up to be even stronger tomorrow.