Vulnerability is Empowerment

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.” -Brené Brown

For the past three years I’ve used this blog as a journal to connect with others and document what I’m going through, what I’ve learned, and to share what inspires me.  Today I re-launched mindfulinstyle.com as a place to empower women to feel beautiful, inside and out. Through storytelling, journaling, and discovering your authentic style, my hope is to inspire others to own their story- no matter what other people may say about it.

I wasn’t always comfortable with being vulnerable, though.

For many years, I played chameleon and hid my insecurities.  I wasn’t open and honest about my fears, my alcoholism, and I certainly didn’t know how to own my shortcomings.  I played the victim and avoided people who hurt me- and those who I hurt, too.

Instead of letting the opinions of others get the best of me, I learned to take back my narrative and take responsibility for my past; for my past no longer defines me.  It’s made me the person I am today- the person who has overcome her challenges and is finally living out the life I always wanted to live.

Mindful in Style has helped me feel content in my own skin, and moving home to Michigan has been symbolic of no longer running from myself. Whether it’s helping women find their voice, their passions, or their personal style, I’m excited to see where Mindful in Style can go.

Live Beautifully Through the Heat

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Ah, summer.  As the temperature heats up and humidity sets in, this time of year can be a little stressful when you’re trying to keep cool.  Although we may feel like tossing our bras out the window and heading to the shore, everyday life doesn’t always permit such a luxury!

Although I love the beautiful East Coast summers, the heat can interfere with my zen and overall comfort level.  It’s difficult to feel polished and put together when you’re overheating on your way to work, stuck on public transit, or simply running errands in 90 degree air.

I recently found a new way to beat the heat in addition to smoothies, beach days and lounging on the front porch.  I discovered Warner’s colorful Play It Cool collection, which have been my go-to bras for the past couple of months.

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These bright bras come in a few different styles to give my basic black style a pop of color, while regulating my body temperature and keeping me comfortable!  I also love the wireless design and CHILL FX™ lining that wicks away moisture to keep me cool.

Thanks to bra fitter and lingerie expert Kimmay Caldwell, I also learned a few great tips to find the best fit and style for you, too.

  1. Make time to try on each bra before purchase. We know this is painful, but like breasts, one size can vary from the other.
  2. Re-Fit once a year. Whether you measure yourself or get a professional fitting, it’s important to stay in touch with your bust.
  3. Support from the bottom up. The majority of support comes from the band (not the straps!), so if it is not fitted properly, you may experience sagging or digging in. You should be able to slip two fingers underneath the back of the band if it fits properly.
  4. It’s normal for your bra to stretch out. Since bras are typically made of elastic, they will stretch over time. It’s best to start with the outermost rung on your new bra and as it wears, move to the middle, then the tightest.
  5. Don’t settle, don’t sacrifice!

Whether you’re looking for a new bra to compliment your wardrobe or are seeking a style to help with the heat, check out the Warner’s and Olga options for your own bra-blems.  You can find styles that are comfortable, eliminate sleevage and look great under clothes- even when you’re just relaxing at home.

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Thank you Warner’s and Kaplow for partnering with me on this post.

Black and white and red all over 

If I could wear a little black dress every day of the week I would. In fact, I usually do. Give me some bright lipstick, a great bag and my signature Karen Walker frames and I’m good to go. My wardrobe has primarily consisted of shades of black, white and grey for years; it’s not only classic, it’s easy.

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I always feel polished when I slip on a little black dress, which is also an amazing choice for a minimalistic lifestyle. My go-to stores are H&M, Zara and ASOS for basics, Henri Bendel for accessories and Ulta for cosmetics (I love the variety of brands- both drug store and high-end).

There are many reasons I love black other than it being sophisticated and chic… it doesn’t give much thought, either!

Everything matches

Unless we’re talking about two shades of black that don’t blend together, you can’t go wrong with black-on-black. Black dress, black trench, black tote, black flats. An all-black outfit is also great when adding statement pieces; my personal favorites are pops of red or bright pink.

It’s easy to accessorize

I love accessorizing. An arm full of bangles, pearls, statement necklaces, bright bags or hats; all of my favorite outfit additions complement my simple wardrobe perfectly.

I always plan out my outfits for the week on Sundays, and surprise, surprise- they’re usually variations of black, white and red. 


Black goes with any makeup💄 

My favorite lip shades vary between shades of red, pink and coral. Here are a few of my favorites to complete my daily look:

Maybelline Color Sensational Vivids “Shocking Coral” Although this is a bright shade, it’s my everyday color. The coral hue brings out the pink  in my cheeks and never fails to help me feel complete before heading out the door.

NARS “Schiap” This bright pink matte is a staple in my makeup bag. While it’s not a typical everyday lipstick, I wear it with confidence even when it’s to the office or running errands during the day.

e.l.f. “Velvet Rope” I love e.l.f. cosmetics- they’re great and don’t break the bank. This is a fun red with an orange undertone, bringing me to my next pick…

Make Up For Ever Rogue Intense #40 This has been my go-to red lipstick for years. The orangey tone makes it bold and bright, perfect for both day and night.

It’s coffee-stain proof

Anyone that knows me rarely will find me without a coffee cup in my hand. I can caffeinate morning, noon and night, so you can imagine that I spill from time to time (more regularly than I would like to admit). I carry a Tide stick with me at all times, but with black, no need for instant stain removal! Have to love it.

Black is slimming

Whenever I’m having an off day I throw on a black top, black leggings and boots. Forgiving, chic and sassy; can’t beat that. You’ll leave the house looking like you tried much harder than you did.

For those who are with me on the all-black train, I stumbled on this article about women who wear black. Accurate, if you ask me!