Someone to Quietly Sit With

Yesterday wasn’t anything out of the ordinary- yet it was a delightful Saturday afternoon.

It was one of those sunny, frigid December days; the type of day when you need sunglasses and gloves. With my notebook and planner in hand, I crept into a cafe for coffee and a warm place to write.

I spotted an empty seat by the window and hoped it would still be there by the time I ordered my drink. However, not only did I notice the empty seat- I noticed a familiar face at the spot next to what I hoped to be mine.

I remembered this person from the summer- we had sat next to each other at the window on the opposite side of the cafe. Just like me, he seemed to prefer the window seats- and just like the time before, I had my journal, planner, and black coffee.

We said a few words this time- chatting about the cold weather, our birthdays, and the dark winter days. He offered me his New Yorker magazine after writing in silence, looking out the window, and sipping warm drinks.

You always wonder what will come out of something like this; you wonder what the stranger sitting next to you will say, what they’ll do, or if you will ever see them again.

However, Saturday afternoon was perfect; because sometimes it’s just nice to have someone to quietly sit with.

Serenity in the Shore

Yesterday I ventured north to enjoy my very first “beach day” of the summer.  Revere Beach was the first public beach in America, which I learned when looking it up for reviews and directions on the T.

After an easy blue line trip from the State stop, I found myself seaside.  Although it’s much different than the pristine Lake Michigan beaches I’m used to, I found serenity in the shore.  

I was feeling anxious and unsettled that morning.  I called my mother on my way to an appointment, wondering when life would “settle down.”  Over the past decade I have been constantly moving, changing things and trying to find myself.

When will life just get easier?

There’s no doubt that the ups and downs life has thrown at me (some my own fault, some by chance) have made me strong; but I can’t help but wonder, “when will I be able to finally stand still?”


I’ve traditionally looked to relationships, jobs and moves to give me stability, but I’ve learned that the only true stability is within myself and my spiritual connection.  Life will always throw curveballs, but it’s how you handle it that will give you strength and character. 

After a couple of hours at the beach, I felt a few rain drops.  It was time to go.  I got caught in the rain on my way home, which felt appropriate, cleansing and comforting.  I stopped by the library to pick up a book that was on hold for me (“The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron) and did some work on the computer.  My beach trip left me feeling much calmer, more positive and hopeful.

The rain carried on through the night, symbolizing a fresh start and a sense of peace.  I recently read that fear and uncertainty paves the way for positive changes, and that my prayers are being answered in ways I would never expect.

Although I may not have the answers today, I have faith that they will divinely unfold when it is time.  Until then, I’ll continue to find serenity in the shore and in the beauty around me.

Live Beautifully Through the Heat

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Ah, summer.  As the temperature heats up and humidity sets in, this time of year can be a little stressful when you’re trying to keep cool.  Although we may feel like tossing our bras out the window and heading to the shore, everyday life doesn’t always permit such a luxury!

Although I love the beautiful East Coast summers, the heat can interfere with my zen and overall comfort level.  It’s difficult to feel polished and put together when you’re overheating on your way to work, stuck on public transit, or simply running errands in 90 degree air.

I recently found a new way to beat the heat in addition to smoothies, beach days and lounging on the front porch.  I discovered Warner’s colorful Play It Cool collection, which have been my go-to bras for the past couple of months.

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These bright bras come in a few different styles to give my basic black style a pop of color, while regulating my body temperature and keeping me comfortable!  I also love the wireless design and CHILL FX™ lining that wicks away moisture to keep me cool.

Thanks to bra fitter and lingerie expert Kimmay Caldwell, I also learned a few great tips to find the best fit and style for you, too.

  1. Make time to try on each bra before purchase. We know this is painful, but like breasts, one size can vary from the other.
  2. Re-Fit once a year. Whether you measure yourself or get a professional fitting, it’s important to stay in touch with your bust.
  3. Support from the bottom up. The majority of support comes from the band (not the straps!), so if it is not fitted properly, you may experience sagging or digging in. You should be able to slip two fingers underneath the back of the band if it fits properly.
  4. It’s normal for your bra to stretch out. Since bras are typically made of elastic, they will stretch over time. It’s best to start with the outermost rung on your new bra and as it wears, move to the middle, then the tightest.
  5. Don’t settle, don’t sacrifice!

Whether you’re looking for a new bra to compliment your wardrobe or are seeking a style to help with the heat, check out the Warner’s and Olga options for your own bra-blems.  You can find styles that are comfortable, eliminate sleevage and look great under clothes- even when you’re just relaxing at home.

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Thank you Warner’s and Kaplow for partnering with me on this post.