Positive People: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

“Stay positive” is a common term loosely used in day-to-day life, often by people who say they’re positive, yet act the opposite. Although the power of our thoughts and words are a major component in personal growth, the way one acts around others plays an even bigger part in the Power of Positivity.

Positive thinkers aren’t just people who avoid negative thoughts- they are people who know how to handle the negativity rather than avoiding it.

So, what else makes a person positive? Over the years I’ve thought about this quite often- especially when navigating my own challenges in life. Here are a few things I’m still working on myself, and may even help you along your own journey.

They Go With The Flow

Positive thinkers know they can’t control each and every situation. Instead of causing a fit when things don’t go their way, they find meaning and lessons in everyday life.

They Grow From Experiences

Have you ever noticed how the same challenges pop up in your life, but manifest in different forms? Whether it’s the sexist boss or the obnoxious roommate, you’ll continue to encounter these people until you learn how to handle them in a new, more productive way. The universe is funny like that.

They Admit When They’re Wrong

Positive thinkers are able to push their egos aside. They know when and how to be humble, and are comfortable admitting their shortcomings- especially when it affects the feelings of those around them.

They Know How to Say No

This is extremely important- setting healthy boundaries can be crucial to maintaining friendships and honoring one’s own self care. People pleasing may seem like the easier route, but will wear you out in the long run. It’s better to be honest and say “no” than to build resentments.

They Don’t Change Around Other People

Positive thinkers stay true to themselves around everyone in their life. They hold strong to their opinions, but don’t take offense when others don’t agree.

It takes a lot of practice to handle negative people or situations, but when you discover your truth- and walk in it- your life flows more effortlessly. You will no longer take everything so personally, not will the opinions of others matter so much.

When you love you, magical things start to happen.

“She’s already had everything she needs within herself. It’s the world that convinced her she did not.” -Rupi Kaur

And Still I Rise

The Boston I live in is a magical, mystical city full of beauty, promise, and joy.

I spent the weekend outside, enjoying the 66 degree weather along the Harbor. I took a stroll down the Greenway, admired the public art, and grabbed a coffee at Rowe’s Wharf.

The Boston I live in represents the potential that is accessible to all of us, whether it’s seizing the day or seeing the best in ourselves.

My beautiful Sunday afternoon reminded me that no matter how many times I may have fallen, made mistakes, or took a detour in life, I have the power to brush myself off, stand up, and rise.

I moved to Massachusetts over two years ago with a blank slate, and I have been able to discover my true self in the process. I have had the opportunity to dig deep into my soul and learn who I am, what I want to be, and where I want to go. I found my own beauty within, and I have noticed the beauty all around me as well.

Whether you’re raising your sails for a new adventure or picking yourself back up, you have the power to rise, too.

Just remember to slow down, breathe, and enjoy the beauty that is right in front of you.

Bracelets: Karol Peralta, Far Fetched (thank you Nicoline! 😘)

Our Own Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

Over the past couple of years I’ve written numerous pieces on subjects such as the power of positive thinking, the law of attraction, and living a high vibrational life.

I’ve had opportunities to teach others about how their own thoughts and words have the ability to manifest in their everyday life. I’ve journaled about my own goals, painted positive affirmations to display in my home, and have meditated on being in alignment with my purpose.

Yet, somehow, I have still held tight to my own negative identities.

*A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior. A positive or negative prophecy, strongly held belief, or delusion—declared as truth when it is actually false—may sufficiently influence people so that their reactions ultimately fulfill the once-false prophecy.

We have all done it- we’ve negatively labeled ourselves. We’ve expected the worst. We’ve looked at old patterns and played fortune teller with our own lives.

Over the past year, I’ve watched jobs fall apart, I had to leave my apartment, and I’ve expected the worst in my own relationships.

I’ve also looked to the past to predict the future.

I’ve been a walking contradiction!

The good news is, it’s not too late to create new, productive identities for yourself.

We no longer need to reflect on the past to determine what’s in store for us- we can looks at our mistakes and start creating a whole new (and positive!) forecast in the here and now.

And who knows? It may be better than our wildest dreams.

*Thanks for the info, Wikipedia