Who Are You Calling Fragile?

Over the past few years I’ve learned the benefits of vulnerability and the value of opening yourself up to other people. As a self proclaimed “counterdependent,” I often have a hard time sharing myself with others one-on-one, or showing who I am due to fear of making a connection:

But connection is powerful.

Taking back the narrative of your life and owning your truth is a gift that takes time, but reaps immeasurable results.

I opened myself up to many different people this past year- some in recovery, and some not. Thanks to my friends in sobriety, I learned to safely share my story with people who understand.

However, sometimes you open up to people who don’t- or won’t. That’s okay too.

I was recently in a situation where I was called “fragile” by someone I hardly knew- simply because I am sober in recovery and showed my vulnerable side. What?!

I’m not sure who he thought he was talking to, but I do know today to keep my standards high and my expectations low.

After years of settling for less or compromising my own morals, I’m no longer willing to let someone else dictate my value or worth.

Struggle brings strength, and although I haven’t always made the best choices in my life, I survived my difficulties and have been able to thrive because of them.

The butterfly represents transformation and new beginnings- if she hadn’t struggled to emerge from the cocoon, she wouldn’t have the strength to spread her wings and fly.

She may be delicate, but she certainly isn’t fragile- and neither are you.

Owning Your Story

Over the years, I’ve come across many types of books; the glossy hardcover, the colorful paperback, and the leather bound book without a title.

As I’ve opened the pages, I’ve been surprised, entertained, and most of all, enlightened. Over and over, the contents of each book proved one thing:

You can’t judge a book by its cover.

Many people have looked at me over the years and made their assumptions. On the outside, I may be a blonde with red lipstick- but on the inside, I’m complex to the core.

I’m a woman with my own story- and you would see it if you opened the pages.


I’ve taken the past couple of months to reflect, write, and sit with self. I’ve spent this time away from social media, pondering what is next in my life.

It’s been a wonderful experience.

In 2019, I’ve made a promise to own my story, live with joy, and be proud of the woman I am becoming- and I look forward to sharing those stories with you.