We all have our things. For some, it’s chocolate, gambling, porn, or collector’s items.
For me, it’s paper goods.
This includes, but is not limited to, books, stationary, calendars, journals, and day planners. If you can purchase it at a book store, I probably want it.
I told you that we all have our things.
The other week I indulged in a new day planner to jump start this new era- an era where I’m even more authentic, organized, and aligned with all things that bring me purpose and joy. I threw away my 2018-2019 planner (where I had already ripped out entire months so I didn’t have to look backward) and decided to move forward with fresh pages.
That sentiment is appropriate for all aspects of life, isn’t it?
Although we can learn from the past, we can’t dwell on it. My new agenda reminds me that my future is fabulous, no matter what the previous pages may have told me.
I’ve had opportunities to teach others about how their own thoughts and words have the ability to manifest in their everyday life. I’ve journaled about my own goals, painted positive affirmations to display in my home, and have meditated on being in alignment with my purpose.
Yet, somehow, I have still held tight to my own negative identities.
*A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior. A positive or negative prophecy, strongly held belief, or delusion—declared as truth when it is actually false—may sufficiently influence people so that their reactions ultimately fulfill the once-false prophecy.
We have all done it- we’ve negatively labeled ourselves. We’ve expected the worst. We’ve looked at old patterns and played fortune teller with our own lives.
Over the past year, I’ve watched jobs fall apart, I had to leave my apartment, and I’ve expected the worst in my own relationships.
I’ve also looked to the past to predict the future.
I’ve been a walking contradiction!
The good news is, it’s not too late to create new, productive identities for yourself.
We no longer need to reflect on the past to determine what’s in store for us- we can looks at our mistakes and start creating a whole new (and positive!) forecast in the here and now.
And who knows? It may be better than our wildest dreams.
A photo popped up on Facebook from a feature I was in on the former StyleList.com. Four years ago, in the height of my fashion blogger days, I was getting ready for my move to New York City. I had just escaped a bad relationship, where I had split my time between Traverse City, Charlotte, and San Francisco. Off to New York, I would go- I would start fresh, and my dreams would come true.
Or so I hoped.
Bright eyed in a midi skirt with a fresh new bob, this girl was off to her new life on the Upper West Side. Little did she know what was in store for her over the course of the next three years, though.
2014 was a magical year. Despite the challenges, the heartbreak, and the transitions- it was exciting. It was full of life. New York had yet to make me jaded, and my eyes were open to every possibility. Maybe too many possibilities!
Lately I’ve been getting back into that old mindset though- the mindset of living life with excitement. Viewing it as one big story. A big fairytale… where anything can happen.
The mindset of living life in color.
I’ve been stuck in black and white for so long that I almost forgot about the pinks and the reds. The yellow of the sun and the orange of my favorite baseball team. The bright opal sky on a warm spring night and the greens of the forest.
So that’s where I’m going to pick back up again- in color. Back to that girl in 2014 who was packing up three dozen boxes of clothes (no exaggeration) and accessories before shipping them to an uptown apartment she had never seen or been to before. Who got on that plane on a warm June day, on her way to a brand new life. That girl who walked into restaurants alone, ordered an Eggs Benedict, and would meet a cute stranger (true story).
That girl who was fearless.
Never, ever let anyone break you. Take the challenges as opportunities to grow even stronger, and instead of looking back with regret, be grateful for the ones who have made you tough.