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New Moon Vibes- Spring Has Sprung!

Although the New Moon was over the weekend, I’ve been really feeling it these past couple of days.  Perhaps it’s a combination of the moon and Mercury snapping out of retrograde (whew), but I’ve been feeling refreshed, calm, and balanced.

Instead of being overcome with emotions- both good or bad- I’ve been feeling more neutral.  People haven’t been pushing my buttons like they used to, comments aren’t being taken so personally, and my anxiety about everyday things- such as commuting or finishing up a task at work- isn’t so bad.

I’ve been choosing what to care about and what to put my energy towards.

This New Moon was in Aries, which is the first astrological sign of the zodiac.  So, it only makes sense to be feeling a bit fresh- it’s the New Year!  I like that thought, too- now is the beginning of a brand new cycle.  We’re all able to pay attention to what is around us, take control of our thoughts, and focus on what is happening in the now. 

That’s how I want to live in this new year, new spring, and new season.

Spring is a time of rebirth, growth, and manifestation; as the old falls away, the new comes into form.  I spent the majority of the winter cooped up writing, planning, and coming up with ideas- which served its purpose during the cold, snowy months.  I had been busy planting seeds for what was next, and even though I was taking steps each day, my ideas weren’t ready to grow- until now.

Just like the spring, everything has its cycle- planting, growth, and blossoming.

Over the weekend I did my usual routine- a Saturday stroll through Boston Common, journaling in the Public Garden, and window shopping on Newbury Street.  It’s finally starting to look like spring, and I’m excited to watch the flowers start to bloom… just like new projects, ideas, and dreams.

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Ask For What You Want


I’ve sometimes wondered why my path has been so up and down, back and forth.  From the cities I’ve lived in to the variety of jobs on my resume, people have never been able to quite figure me out.  I don’t care.  However, as I reflect on the past ten years or so, my passions and values have been exactly the same; I just didn’t know what to do to manifest them into a stable life.

I’ve done all kinds of things to seek stability, but in the end, they just weren’t in alignment with my creative nature or the purpose lined up for me.  I’ve had an incredible need to experience all life has to offer, yet when my heart is full and I’m doing what I love, I see no need for anything more.

This past year was a time of “cleaning house,” letting go, and laying the foundation for the future.  Before now I never asked for what I wanted… because I didn’t quite know yet.

First, I had to get into alignment with my heart to figure it out.

I’ll be ringing in 2018 the same way I did last year– going to The Nest for Brenda’s New Year’s Eve party and making vision boards.  I had a great time last year, just shy of one month into my life in Massachusetts.  Back then I had no idea what my future would look like; I just wanted to heal and be happy.

and I did.

My vision board for 2017 was spot-on aside from a trip to Paris and a money tree.  It wasn’t a very ambitious vision board… it looks like I set out to spend the year lounging in bed (partially true).  Jokes aside, I’m no longer spinning my wheels like I used to.  There was a lot of self-discovery, self-care, and self-compassion.  I gave myself a break of trying to be “perfect” and used the year to document the lessons I learned along the way.

I used to dip my toes into situations only to pull back out and try something new.  No; not any longer.  I’ll be turning 33 this Friday (12/22!) and I’m no longer concerned about checking off “life boxes” like I was in my 20’s.  I’ve had many opportunities to check them all more than once, but I turned my nose and chose freedom.

I’ll always choose freedom.  The right person won’t restrict me from living out my purpose, because I’ll be in alignment with my soul.

It’s extremely exciting and uplifting to know that our thoughts create our reality.  We have the freedom to build whatever we want in this life.  In 2018, I will no longer sell myself short- I’ll continue writing, keep a budget, find that publisher, finish my book, travel more, and connect with even more amazing people who inspire me to be the best I can be.  Thanks to finally doing work I love, living in a place that feels like home, and surrounding myself with people who encourage me, I have a newfound faith in the future.

Most importantly, I have a newfound faith in myself.

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First Snow

It’s the most wonderful time of the year!

Although the temperatures have dropped, winter is my favorite season.  There’s something magical about the first snowfall, cozy nights by the fireplace, and enjoying a cup of hot cocoa.  

Things slow down during the wintertime, and maybe that’s why I like it so much.  It’s a time of reflection and hope for the new year. 

2017 has been a year of a lot of changes, growth, and newfound optimism.  Although it hasn’t always been a walk in the park, each and every lesson has brought me closer to the person I want to be in 2018.  

I hope you are enjoying the season as much as I am!  What are your favorite things about winter?

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Let it go

2016 has been a wild ride. Each year we go into January with new resolutions to better ourselves, yet December rolls around with us asking, “what happened?”

Despite my grand plans to minimalize my life in 2016, I found myself trying way too hard to “make things work,” further complicating matters and adding on to my stress. Minimalism isn’t just about material things; it’s about quality over quantity in all aspects of life. Control has always been an issue for me, leading to anxiety.

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Scoping out the Times Square aftermath on January 1.

After several bumps along the road, a couple of moves and a few mistakes later, I’ve finally taken a deep breath and learned that I can’t control everything. All I can do is the next right thing, try my best, do the work and the rest will follow.

Easier said than done, right? Honestly, it can be.

Stop chasing people

I used to always try and fix situations, apologized when it wasn’t necessary and worried when someone didn’t respond to my texts or calls. Guess what? I’ve learned to let it go. They’ll come around if they’re meant to; if not, you’re just fine. Keep going.

This also is applicable with employment; I spent a good part of my year looking for jobs or consulting projects, but was often disappointed when it didn’t go my way. Did I come off as desperate? Was I chasing something that wasn’t even meant for me?

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What’s for you will not pass you

I found an Alex and Ani bracelet with this saying, which brought life and its challenging into perspective.

“Your life is destined for greatness. Obstacles will inevitably come your way. Greet them with patience and hard work. Allow the light of fated opportunities to spill through, live in fearlessness, and remember that what’s meant for you will not pass you.”

Instead of overanalyzing every situation and trying to control things that are out of my hands, I remember the phrase and know that what is meant for me will fall into place. Although I can have hopes and dreams, some of the best gifts are ones that you least expect. That’s the beauty of life.

Slow down

So what if you’re five minutes late? Living in NYC completely me through a loop; as a naturally anxious person who is always thinking ten steps ahead, that city did me no favors. I took my aggression out daily on people walking down the street, whether it was pushing through a Fifth Avenue crowd or snapping at someone who cut me in line.

Do these things really matter? No. I’m not the center of the universe, and neither are you. I clearly could have handled those stressful situations better, learned how to think differently

Watch for signs and listen to your gut

Wise mind” is a DBT skill that, in simple terms, is the balance between logic and emotion. This could also be considered intuition. My gut told me that Boston was the right city for me; and with a bit of emotion and rationality, a voice in my mind told me to head east. I did my research, wrote out my goals, made a plan and just two weeks later, I was here.

Do you ever see the clock hit your lucky number or birthday? Maybe you find playing cards on the ground (I never fail to see 12:22– my birthday- or find “2” cards). Whatever the case, I am a firm believer that the universe is sending out signs to keep you paying attention, and on the right track.

Learning to be more mindful and to let go of stress, control and what others around you are doing can be difficult, but in the end, this is your journey. Never let anyone steal your happiness; especially if that person is you.