Living Authentically

According to Jean-Jacques Rousseau, authenticity is derived from the natural self, while inauthenticity is a result of external influences.  You know- the ego, societal expectations, and materialism.

So, what is your natural self?

When you stop holding onto the fear of what others think of you, the magic starts to happen:

Authenticity begins.

When you live your life authentically, things start to fall into place.  The right people and opportunities effortlessly find their way to you.  The weight of the world seems to fall away.

For years I tried to water down the person I was due to fear of what people had to say about me.  I would tone down my message, hold back my truth, or justify simple things simply because of what others may think.

Often times, I had no real evidence of what they were actually thinking.

As I began to accept the person I am, I stopped considering the opinions of others.  Sure, it is important for me to be kind and considerate, but I also know when I need to set personal boundaries.  I stopped trying to fit in and embraced what fits for me.

I wrote this back in 2017, when I began my journey of giving less F’s about everything else and caring more about me:

When you’re in alignment with the person you are meant to be, you won’t fit in like you did before.  You will see the world much clearer, more serene, and with a sense of purpose.  The noise from the outside world will no longer affect you so much and you will begin to find ways to improve the world around you, not complain about it.  As you continue to discover your true self, remember that the positives far outweigh the negatives.  Although it can be uncomfortable at first, keep doing you- you’ll thank yourself later. 

If you’ve spent years trying to please everyone around you, here’s the sign you need to break the habit and start remembering the most important person of all: yourself.

A Little Pizzazz on Casual Friday

Today I picked out a pearl-embellished little black dress to wear to work.  It’s Friday, which calls for a little pizzazz.

Even a gal who doesn’t “party” anymore can enjoy a flouncy dress to ring in the weekend, right?

Of course she can.

I strolled through Cambridge, Dunkin Donuts in hand and my Karen Walker shades on.  I felt fantastic, with a Holly Golightly energy about me.

Dressing up gives me life!

I hopped onto the bus in Harvard Square and headed into the office.  Listening to a song that I envisioned as the soundtrack to my glamorous morning commute, I closed my eyes and felt grateful for this summer day.

I hopped off the bus and walked into my office.  As I sat at my desk, a coworker walked by and said hello.

“You look nice today,” he remarked.

“Thank you,”  I replied.

“I say this because it’s casual Friday,” he continued.  “You don’t have to dress up.”

“I know.”  I smiled.  Dressing up makes me happy.”

Although it’s Friday and I could have worn jeans, life is about the moments- especially the small ones- that bring you joy.  Slow down and smell the flowers, spritz on that special perfume, and splurge on a delicious lunch.

Here’s to Casual Friday- and doing what gives your own workday a little pizzazz.

Conflict is Exhausting

“Please don’t disturb my peace if you’re at war with yourself.”

Some people enjoy being angry for the sake of being angry.

Don’t get me wrong; I can understand this.  I’ve been there too.

However, today I’m no longer willing to take on the garbage that others try to project onto me.

It’s natural to want to be right, to prove a point, or argue your side of the story.  But does it really matter?

Today I’d rather be listen to my tunes, stroll down the street, and be peaceful.