Over the weekend I did one of my favorite things- I took myself to a movie. Solo.
Solitary adventures are one of my most treasured pastimes. Not only do I have the opportunity to recharge my introvert self, I gain an immense amount of inspiration from mindfully roaming through the city, finding new hidden gems, and taking in the beauty around me.
I went to go to “Where’d You Go Bernadette,” partially due to my love for Cate Blanchett. I seem to be one of the few who didn’t read the book, but I went in intuitively know I’d enjoy the film.
As I watched a fellow introvert self destruct, I realized an important message:
Creators are meant to create.
I remembered that not only is my precious solo time beneficial to maintaining my energy, it’s crucial to my creations.
With each photo I take, piece I write, and lesson I learn, my creations are keeping me sane. They’re keeping me grounded. They’re keeping me connected.
Sharing what I see and what I have learned with the world keeps me going. Being able to carry a message to another person or using my own experience as wisdom or lessons for others is a purpose I know I was meant to fill. Self destruction is inevitable when one doesn’t feel a sense of purpose, passion, or belonging- so I am glad to be reminded to live beautifully and create each and every day.
It’s the small things in life that bring the biggest joy.
“Living beautifully” is my MO, from engaging in self care to noticing all of the lovely things around me. Living mindfully has helped me appreciate life on a whole new level, and it doesn’t take much to live a beautiful life.
Here are a few things that will help you live beautifully, too.
1. Go for a morning walk. Whether you are able to enjoy time in nature or breathe in the city air, being outside lifts your spirits and gets you moving in the morning.
2. Arrange a bouquet- either from your front yard or the local florist- to display at home. There’s nothing like fresh flowers to brighten your soul and create a stylish home.
3. Create a cozy environment with pieces near and dear to your heart. Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world! Adding personal touches is important when decorating your little zen den.
4. Indulge in a tasty tea or hibiscus drink the next time you go out for errands. Even day-to-day tasks such as going to the bank or post office can be fun when you have something to look forward to.
5. Use a pretty day planner. I LOVE crossing items off my to-do list, and having a cute agenda makes daily life less daunting.
6. Embrace your inner goddess by creating a self-care routine each morning. I invested in a Jade roller, cocoa butter cream, and luxurious face serum to start my morning off right after taking a shower. Bring the spa home!
7. Drink from your favorite cup. I have a great variety of mugs and glasses to make my morning coffee or seltzer water feel like a special treat. Enjoy it!
What do you do to live beautifully? Let me know!
Over the past few years I’ve learned the benefits of vulnerability and the value of opening yourself up to other people. As a self proclaimed “counterdependent,” I often have a hard time sharing myself with others one-on-one, or showing who I am due to fear of making a connection:
But connection is powerful.
Taking back the narrative of your life and owning your truth is a gift that takes time, but reaps immeasurable results.
I opened myself up to many different people this past year- some in recovery, and some not. Thanks to my friends in sobriety, I learned to safely share my story with people who understand.
However, sometimes you open up to people who don’t- or won’t. That’s okay too.
I was recently in a situation where I was called “fragile” by someone I hardly knew- simply because I am sober in recovery and showed my vulnerable side. What?!
I’m not sure who he thought he was talking to, but I do know today to keep my standards high and my expectations low.
After years of settling for less or compromising my own morals, I’m no longer willing to let someone else dictate my value or worth.
Struggle brings strength, and although I haven’t always made the best choices in my life, I survived my difficulties and have been able to thrive because of them.
The butterfly represents transformation and new beginnings- if she hadn’t struggled to emerge from the cocoon, she wouldn’t have the strength to spread her wings and fly.
She may be delicate, but she certainly isn’t fragile- and neither are you.