There’s no “finish line” of life.
Sure, life will come to an end at some point, but we never know where our journey will lead.
We don’t run the show as hard as we may try. We can’t finagle our own little plans and designs to go our way, because the Universe already knows where we belong- and when pieces will fall into place.
While sitting at my favorite cafe, Brew, I chatted with one of my dearest friends who I met in 7th grade. Both bullied, we bonded over the years due to our struggles and strength. Today, she’s married with two kids, a house, and a lot of responsibility.
“Take time to yourself while you can,” she told me.
“I tell my sister the same thing.” Her sister, also a friend of mine, is beautiful, strong, and sophisticated- and single.
Lately I have been feeling lonely (obviously- I left Boston to return to my hometown), thinking I want a partner. I have been thinking about all the guys I have met, wondering why they didn’t choose me- and why people I know have partnered up and I haven’t.
Then, I realized:
I’m not quite ready.
Loving myself, spending time with friends, and embracing my family is where I am at now. I’m becoming the most authentic version of myself that I can be, and I am no longer willing to let someone try and change me.
When he comes along, he will come along- and he will be strong. He will love me for me. He will encourage me to be thrive. He will be ready for me, too.
But for now, I’m taking time to myself while I can.