Embrace Being A Girlie Girl

I’ve been a girlie girl for as long as I can remember.

In fact, I was a girlie girl before I was even conscious of the sunglasses on my face or the ruffles on my clothes.  The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree- as I get older, I’ve noticed I am becoming more and more like the ladiest of ladies- my mother.

Although I’ve always been known to have a dry wit, a lot of guy friends, and would be more likely found at a sports bar than dancing at a club, I would never, ever, put down my lipstick, listen to a guy advise me on what to wear, or stop shaving my legs in the winter.

Why on earth do women think they need a man to take care of themselves?

It’s so, so ridiculous.

I don’t know about you, but I do everything I do for me.

Over the years my boyfriends have tried and tell me not to wear makeup.  They’ve encouraged me to put on a pair of jeans and ditch the dress, to stop wearing the big sunglasses, to grow out my hair, and to take off my lipgloss.  They’ve told me to dress sexy, they’ve told me to stay in sweatpants, and hell, they’ve even told me what they wanted their ex-girlfriends to wear.

And you know what?  I kept doing what I wanted to do.

I will never cease to roll my eyes at any magazine or propaganda that informs women how to please their man, dress for their man, or attract more men. You know what I have to say to that? Be your damn self, because that’s how you’ll attract the right man.

I know what you’re thinking, “this girl is single- what does she know?”  Well, I’m the one who called off a wedding ten years ago, has lived with three men over the course of my life, and I’ve always been the one to leave.  I don’t stick around for the stifling-  I would much rather be free than “taken care of.”  I’ll be on my own unless I meet a man who embraces my girliness, loves my lipstick, and encourages me to be me.  

I suppose I just can’t come to terms with women who don’t want to do things for themselves.  Being a girlie girl doesn’t make you weak, being graceful doesn’t make you any less powerful, and embracing your femininity doesn’t mean a man can walk all over you.

Being female is a superpower.

So, take your power back.

My wish is for women to stop putting so much weight on men’s opinions and how it makes them think of themselves.  I don’t want to hear about women changing their clothes because of a man’s opinion, memes complaining about having to take care of yourself because of a date, or hear that my friends acted like this.  No.  Just no.

Shave your damn legs for yourselves, ladies.  Trust me, it feels great.

Black and white and red all over 

If I could wear a little black dress every day of the week I would. In fact, I usually do. Give me some bright lipstick, a great bag and my signature Karen Walker frames and I’m good to go. My wardrobe has primarily consisted of shades of black, white and grey for years; it’s not only classic, it’s easy.

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The High Line, NYC
I always feel polished when I slip on a little black dress, which is also an amazing choice for a minimalistic lifestyle. My go-to stores are H&M, Zara and ASOS for basics, Henri Bendel for accessories and Ulta for cosmetics (I love the variety of brands- both drug store and high-end).

There are many reasons I love black other than it being sophisticated and chic… it doesn’t give much thought, either!

Everything matches

Unless we’re talking about two shades of black that don’t blend together, you can’t go wrong with black-on-black. Black dress, black trench, black tote, black flats. An all-black outfit is also great when adding statement pieces; my personal favorites are pops of red or bright pink.

It’s easy to accessorize

I love accessorizing. An arm full of bangles, pearls, statement necklaces, bright bags or hats; all of my favorite outfit additions complement my simple wardrobe perfectly.

I always plan out my outfits for the week on Sundays, and surprise, surprise- they’re usually variations of black, white and red. 


Black goes with any makeup💄 

My favorite lip shades vary between shades of red, pink and coral. Here are a few of my favorites to complete my daily look:

Maybelline Color Sensational Vivids “Shocking Coral” Although this is a bright shade, it’s my everyday color. The coral hue brings out the pink  in my cheeks and never fails to help me feel complete before heading out the door.

NARS “Schiap” This bright pink matte is a staple in my makeup bag. While it’s not a typical everyday lipstick, I wear it with confidence even when it’s to the office or running errands during the day.

e.l.f. “Velvet Rope” I love e.l.f. cosmetics- they’re great and don’t break the bank. This is a fun red with an orange undertone, bringing me to my next pick…

Make Up For Ever Rogue Intense #40 This has been my go-to red lipstick for years. The orangey tone makes it bold and bright, perfect for both day and night.

It’s coffee-stain proof

Anyone that knows me rarely will find me without a coffee cup in my hand. I can caffeinate morning, noon and night, so you can imagine that I spill from time to time (more regularly than I would like to admit). I carry a Tide stick with me at all times, but with black, no need for instant stain removal! Have to love it.

Black is slimming

Whenever I’m having an off day I throw on a black top, black leggings and boots. Forgiving, chic and sassy; can’t beat that. You’ll leave the house looking like you tried much harder than you did.

For those who are with me on the all-black train, I stumbled on this article about women who wear black. Accurate, if you ask me!