I have heard a lot of thoughts regarding the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain this past week. The most common is, “they had everything” or “their lives looked so wonderful.”
I have a lot of feelings about this.
Those with depression aren’t necessarily the ones venting on Facebook or complaining at work. They’re not the ones who have bad luck, draw the wrong cards, or seem down and out. Those with depression are often the people who smile, entertain, write, inspire, and laugh- all to cope. They put on a face of strength. They try to block out the bad. But, sometimes, it’s all too much.
Happiness doesn’t come through wealth, vacations, relationships, or fame. Happiness is within your soul.
Without being fulfilled on the inside, the outside does not matter. I started my blog after getting help in 2016, and I am happy to say I did not let my pride, reputation, or others sway me into avoiding it or sharing my story. Instead, I learned that vulnerability only benefits others. I don’t care if people judge me for sharing- if I can help one person, it’s worth it.
The world will not be the same without these two individuals who were both such inspirations and role models to me. I can only hope they are finally at peace.
Over the past couple of months I’ve been having fun- I mean, a lot of fun- with my Instagram stories.
So, what do I talk about, you ask? Honestly, nothing really.
I walk around Boston and talk about my day. I laugh at funny things and hope you’re laughing right along with me. I show you cool things around the city, ask your advice on my style choices, and share my thrift store finds. I share things I learn from others. I connect- and that is what I love so much.
Whatever I happen to be doing, I am embracing every moment of every day.
Enjoying life is what living beautifully is all about, and I hope you join me in my journey!
Just when I was feeling a little off balanced, the death of Kate Spade put my life back into perspective.
One week ago today I cut my hair, feeling fresh, nostalgic, and ready for the summer. However, part of that act gave me that same old feeling I had four years ago prior to moving to New York City. It was a positive feeling- but another of pain. It made me question my decisions, wonder if I made a mistake by leaving, and feel guilty for everything that went wrong these past four years.
Then, I stopped.
Everything happens for a reason.
Had I not left New York City in July 2016, things may have turned out much differently- and much worse. Looking back and reflecting on my life, and the life of Kate Spade, I want to express the importance of getting help, self care, and mental health awareness.
I moved to New York as if the city were a band-aid; the magical cure. I would step into a new life, forgetting old wounds, childhood pain, and inner struggles. Instead, all of my wounds burst open- but I had another chance.
I chose to step back, take a break, and get help.
I started my blog 6 days after moving to Boston, which is a manifestation of my own journey, lessons, and appreciation for life. I am beyond grateful to the people who have supported me on my journey and believed in me when I stopped believing in myself. I haven’t been perfect since coming to Boston, but life has been much better than the Kristin I left behind in 2016.
So, here I am, downtown Boston- with new glasses, a new haircut, and a new perspective. No longer afraid to face the challenges of life, I can say with confidence:
Over the weekend I gave my bathroom a makeover. Despite living minimally, I’ve made an effort to give my humble abode a few little luxuries.
It’s not always easy to make an old room look shiny and new! Ever since moving into my first San Francisco apartment ten years ago, I’ve grown accustomed to outdated (and overpriced) spaces that need a creative touch. Although my bathroom wasn’t that bad, it definitely needed a little face lift.
Knowing I had blue tiles and plastic light fixtures to work with, I wanted to go for a clean, simple look. As I was browsing through Marshalls, I stumbled across a sea-stripe shower curtain by Kate Spade– and although it wasn’t what I had initially been looking for, it was perfect for a New England girl.
Decorating Tip #1~ Find a staple piece and work everything else around it.
Now that I had my theme, I was ready to accessorize. I had been living bare-bones since moving in; mismatched towels, a broken towel hook, and an old shower curtain had been holding me over these past seven months. Needless to say, it was time to show the room some love.
I picked up the necessities- matching towels, a towel hook, bathmat, and a couple accessories to warm up the space. It took me three days and several stores to find the perfect shades of blue, but once I made it to Primark, my search was over. For just $26, I got two new bath towels, two hand towels and a bath mat- all to perfectly match my shower curtain.
Organization is huge for me. I no longer keep “extras” in my house, either- if it’s old, broken, or useless, I toss it. Long are the days of hoarding old nail polish, extra eyeshadow shades, or almost-gone lipstick.
Decorating Tip #2~ When arranging things, be sure they’re in a logical area- separate items such as lotions, beauty tools, perfumes, etc. Not only will your area be tidy, it will be much easier to find everything!
It’s amazing what a few tiny touches can do! In addition to this weekend’s purchases, I refurbished and reorganized a few things I already had. I moved a few pictures on the wall, painted the vanity trim gold, and re-purposed a jewelry stand to hold my lotions. With rose-gold accents and Tiffany-blue trimming, my chic and simple bathroom was complete.
Decorating Tip #3~ You don’t need to buy new everything- just move things around!
So, when all was said and done, I completed my bathroom makeover for under $70. How did I do it? Here’s the breakdown: