Sacral Says

It’s that feeling in your gut telling you to make that right turn.

It’s the voice urging you to stay home from the party right when you’re ready to leave, to get out of bed and start writing at 3AM, and to make that cross-country move on a whim.

You know the feeling telling you “yes” or “no,” the little “mmhmm” or “uh uh” urging you to make a big decision- a decision that doesn’t make sense to anyone but you?

That’s your sacral response– and, if you’re a Manifesting Generator (or Generator) like me, you have a sacral authority that has been guiding you whether you’ve realize it or not.

Before I learned about Human Design, I had no idea my inner guide, or intuition, had an official name, leading my every move throughout my life. Those times when I followed the crowd, listened to negative feedback, or allowed naysayers to sway my decisions were the times I ignored my inner authority: my Sacral Center.

Friends and family have often thought my decisions were irrational; crazy, even. However, my moves to San Francisco, Boston, and even home to Michigan were based on feelings in my gut that I couldn’t ignore.

People often write to me and ask how I knew when it was right for me to make that next move or to quit a job that wasn’t a good fit. Lately, I’ve told them my own experiences- but also about how it relates to my Human Design. We all have an inner authority- one that won’t lead us in the wrong direction.

During this pandemic and uncertainty, our society has been forced to slow down. It’s not comfortable for many, but it’s a gift in disguise- one we may not receive again.

It’s the gift of pause and reflection.

Not only do I recommend taking this time for self-discovery, it’s also a perfect opportunity to re-assess the life you’ve been living.

How many of your decisions were impacted by society’s expectations? What choices did you make because of what other people said? If you could stop and do something over, what would you go back and accomplish?

With idle time, we can see our lives more clearly. What is your gut telling you? If you have a blank slate in front of you, what direction do you want to go in?

When you stop and listen to your gut- or whatever your inner authority may be- it’s amazing what doors begin to open for you.

Trial and Error: The Life of a 4/6 in Human Design

It’s hard to believe I just learned about Human Design a few short weeks ago.

On an ordinary day, a friend (who happens to be my birthday twin) texted me about her recent obsession with her Human Design chart. What was she talking about? I quickly Googled, only to discover a whole new world- the world of Human Design.

Using figures such as birth date, time, and city, each person in this world has a unique blueprint of their design- a design composed of energy centers (which are defined or undefined), gates, and channels. Every person also has a type, an inner authority, definition, and a profile.

I used MyBodyGraph for my chart, which saves all your information when you create an account, but I also like using Jovian Archive and Health Manifested, too. Each property of my Human Design chart took some time to look up- from learning what my open Head and Anja centers mean to discovering how to respond as a Manifesting Generator- but it’s a fun study I could spend days reading up on.

One of the most fascinating parts of my chart was learning my “Profile,” which is comprised of two number lines, each giving important composites that describe someone’s qualities. My Profile is a 4/6, the “Opportunist Role Model,” which is known for its three stages of life-

Stage 1 happens from birth to roughly age 30 (around the Saturn Return). During this time, there are strong 3rd line vibes of discovery-based learning and bonds made and broken.

Stage 2 roughly begins after the Saturn Return is over and lasts until the Chiron Return, approximately ages 30-50. During this time, there’s the opportunity to retreat and heal, and to reflect in order to gain a bit of perspective around all that happened during the first 30-ish years.

Stage 3 begins after the Chiron Return and lasts as long as we do. During this point in time, the 6th line has turned experience into wisdom via their reflection and is now ready to reengage with life armed with lessons learned via lived experience.

Here’s how this three-stage process looks for the 4/6:

The 6th line’s goal during stage 1 is to gather and collect experiences via trial and error. During this time, the 4th line craves stability and a solid foundation, so typically the things the 6th line is willing to try is in pursuit of this stability. This stage is all about lessons learned, so not every attempt at stability will be successful…but that’s just part of the discovery process.

The 6th line’s goal during stage 2 is to provide time for reflection and healing, and allow for the perspective that comes with distance. This is when the 4th line finally gets the stability it craves, as career, friends and family start to be called in.

The 6th line’s goal during stage 3 is completing the final step where experience through reflection becomes wisdom, and that wisdom can now be applied in a far more frequently successful way. Over the course of your life, as you gain more experience and hold space to reflect on that experience to acquire valuable perspective, 4/6s are able to get the head and the heart on the same page far more easily and more often.

This is especially pertinent to me as a former city-hopper, career-changer, and serial dater. Until moving home to Michigan in October, I was consistently out of alignment with what was in my heart- but that wasn’t a flaw. It was because I was in my first phase of life- the trial and error phase. When I started Mindful in Style back in 2016, I was beginning to gather the lessons I had learned over the years and started to write about the new ones as I experienced them- which is written all over my chart (no pun intended).

Based on my design, I was never meant to stay at one job, settle down after college, or find my partner in my 20’s. I was meant to move around, learn lessons, make mistakes, and discover important truths based on my experiences- not textbooks or from living out societal norms.

My inner authority, Sacral, is that ping in my stomach which tells me “uh huh” or “uh uh” when making decisions- and throughout my entire life, I’ve followed it. When my gut told me to call of my wedding, I did it. When I made the choice to move to New York, I went for it. When leaving a job seemed like the right thing to do, I didn’t hesitate.

My decisions have never been based on logic or facts, but that inner voice advising me which direction to go. While some people may not understand this, other empaths and those with sacral authority think it makes perfect sense. My open head and anja centers deliver information to me, while my defined spleen guides me through my intuition.

I have always known I would be okay, too- no matter what other people have told me. It’s that inner authority telling me so.

Based on my design, I was always meant to spread my wings and fly, only to return to the nest to heal and retreat (which is the beginning of my second stage), write about what I’ve learned, and continue to follow the path as my life manifests.

I don’t know what my tomorrows will bring, but thanks to my Human Design chart, I know I’m following the authentic path designed for me- a path only I need to understand, too.

Soul Connection or Nah? Recognizing the Difference Between Bonds

It’s happened to the best of us. We meet someone and are instantly drawn to them- but why?

Sometimes you have a deep and undeniable spiritual connection with another person, while other times your intuition can play tricks on you, making you think there’s a higher connection when it’s really a lesson in disguise.

If you feel a strong bond with someone who is trying to change you, guilt you, or make you feel you’re not enough, that’s not a soul connection. From my own experience, it was always a narcissist looking to feed from my spirit.

Has anyone else experienced this? Have you met someone you were instantly drawn to, only to realize later the outcome wasn’t what you expected? Did you keep trying to find ways for them to accept you? Did you constantly feel you weren’t worthy?

Oh yeah, me too.

As I reflect on the past four or five years, it’s clear to me how I’ve met people I’ll forever share a bond with, people I’ll keep from a distance, and people I will never talk to again, but will always value the lesson they taught me.

Whether it’s a business, family, or a personal connection, it’s important to recognize the role people play in our lives- and that it isn’t our job to change them or the nature of the relationship.

It is what it is.