We’re not just embarking on any new decade, though. It’s about to be 2020- which feels symbolic of seeing clearly, following the light, and having a solid vision for the year ahead.
Life is always a work in progress for me- instead of a traditional “New Year Resolution,” I reflect every month on what I want to change, manifest, and learn.
Cleansing my aura and getting into alignment with what I TRULY want (not the media, my family, or society) sets the stage for creating a life that is authentic to me. As I journal and reflect with each month, moon cycle, and moment, it’s interesting to go back to see when old patterns were broken and new ideas started to form.
Letting go of who we once were- or who the story inside our head thought we were- is a major step in healing, happiness, and living with peace.
See you soon, 2020!
PS- You can cleanse your aura too with white sage! The smudge stick, crystals, and Moonology journal can all be found at Higher Self bookstore downtown TC. I highly recommend starting off your decade on the right foot. 🌕
A few months ago I wrote about ways to raise your vibration, which is the frequency of your energy. The higher your vibration, the better your mind, body, and spirit will feel. A high vibration will result in a happier life, more peace, clarity, joy, and love.
When your vibration is high, it’s much easier to manifest the life you want and take control of your destiny.
But what if you’re lowering your vibration without even knowing it? The lower your vibration is, the less connected you are to your higher self. This results in negativity, selfishness, poor health, anxiety, and many other unfavorable factors. As I look back at my own past experiences, I realize how many things I once thought were fun and harmless were actually lowering my energy, hurting my health, and making me miserable. A low vibration is also damaging to your immune system, causing anxiety, depression, pain, illness, and disease.
Instead of relieving our stress, addictions actually lower our vibration and block our connection to our higher selves. For a moment, these addictions give us a synthetic sense of being in the present moment, when in reality, they’re pushing us further away from consciousness. Pharmaceuticals, alcohol, shopping, sex, and gambling are all examples of common addictions that give us fake or temporary highs.
For example, alcohol is called a “spirit” for a reason- it numbs our psychic senses and often turns us to the dark side. Rooted from the Arabic “al-kuhl,” meaning “body eating spirit,” alcohol can do much more bad than good. I started and stopped time and time again over a six year period, only to realize life is much better with a clear mind (not to mention body and spirit!). Sure, it can be extremely uncomfortable to experience all of your emotions, but with a strong spiritual foundation, these feelings are much easier to handle.
Electronics and Media
We can’t deny that we’re all reliant on our phones. Now, add laptops, iPads, Kindles, and television to the mix- how often are we completely tech-free? Although these devices have become a part of our everyday lives, they can be extremely damaging to our sleep cycles, mental health, eyes, and muscles. The energy of prolonged electronic use can not be healthy to our bodies, yet the affects of the content we’re consuming is an entirely different story.
The media is flooded with tragedy, fear mongering, negativity, and materialism- yet it’s prominent in our society. When did our culture, as a whole, forget the beauty of walking in nature, reading a physical book, or working on a craft? For me, it’s important to have a healthy balance. I suggest going a day or two without the media to see how you feel.
Junk Food and Processed Foods
It can be a challenge to avoid quick meals during our busy lives. While living in New York I often forgot to eat, so I’d pick up a piece of pizza, hot dog, or pretzel at a street stand. Oh, and who doesn’t love street meat?! Delicious, sure- but definitely not supportive to my health or energy level. I’m still very guilty of this, but I’ve been trying to plan better, buy healthy snacks, and eat meals consisting of mostly veggies.
Have you noticed how much better you feel when your diet is rich with fruits and vegetables? Eating raw or vegan is a wonderful way to increase your health and your vibration, but it’s not for everyone. As much as you can avoid junk and processed foods, the better off you will be.
When we look at physical things to satisfy us, we’re disconnecting from the spiritual world. Sure, this works for many people- but when is enough enough? A wise man once said, “mo money, mo problems,” and he was right. Cutting back on “things” has made me so much happier, less stressed, and more content with what I do have. Today, I look to spirituality, not spending, when I am feeling lost.
I have written a lot about my experience with completely changing my life back in 2016 when I left New York City. From fashion blogger to frugal, I had no idea that it would be the start of one of my greatest passions- minimalism. Although I had more clothes than I could account for, a big paycheck, and a fancy zip code, I was constantly depressed. I thought a boyfriend, a job, a new handbag, or a drink would fix things- but they never did.
In a world full of so many distractions, it can become difficult to stay conscious of your mind, body, and spirit. Constant running, going and doing has left us feeling irritated, incomplete, flustered and alone.
This morning I saw a post by the inspirational April Adams, who has helped me over the past several months through her book, online advice, and messages of hope.
“If you’re tired of being overwhelmed by feeling other people’s stuff, clear your own stuff (traumas, fears, triggers…). Then you won’t resonate with the lower frequencies anymore and it won’t bother you like it did. Go forth and be free.”
This got me thinking; how can we be free?
Raising your vibration is the first step to clearing your mind and connecting with your higher self. Enlightenment and connecting with my own spirituality has completely changed my life, perspective, and overall happiness. This is a new concept for many people, but in a world of hustle and bustle, it’s important for me to share the simple ways that you, too, can live a more peaceful, free life.
Live beautifully. Enjoying the simple things in the world around me has made my life so much fuller. I started becoming more conscious of my surroundings while living in New York City, where life seemed to pass by quicker than I could enjoy it. Amidst getting pushed through the city sidewalks and squeezing into a sweaty subway, I found solace in Central Park, beauty in buildings, and peace by the river. Slowing down and observing the world may be difficult, but there is beauty all around us.
Become conscious of your thoughts. I can easily fall into old thinking patterns. When someone annoys me or life doesn’t go my way, I become grouchy, negative and selfish. It has become much easier for me to catch myself when I’m thinking negatively about other people and situations; instead, I try and think with compassion. This is not easy, but there’s a power in positive thinking. If you continue to think negatively, negative things will come your way. If you think, “today will be horrible” or “I’m going to miss the train,” chances are, those things will happen to you. Alternatively, if you start your day with a positive mind, positive things will come your way.
Meditate. This one can be difficult, but once you are able to sit still and focus on your breath, you’ll discover that the benefits are huge. I never understood meditation or why I should do it until the first time I felt the “tinglies.” This can be a bit tricky to explain! I used to look to people, chemicals, or activities to feel a physical and mental sense of peace, but once I found it in meditation and a connection to my higher self, I didn’t want to stop! Once I truly learned how to meditate, an overwhelming sense of warmth and comfort came over me. I finally understood what it meant to connect to my higher self! Meditation is how I start every day, but I often meditate before bed, at the park during lunch, or sometimes I simply close my eyes on the train to re-center myself on my daily commute.
Make a gratitude list. I never go a day without writing down what I am grateful for. I’ve had many stressful situations over the past couple of weeks; I’m looking for a new apartment, I’ve experienced job changes, and to top it off, I have my own personal issues. Sometimes it feels like the walls are crashing down on me. However, there’s much more to be grateful for than to be upset about. I write down simple joys, from my morning coffee to a meaningful conversation that I had with a friend. Once you start writing down your gratitudes, you’ll realize there’s much more to be thankful for than to be discouraged about.
Focus on physical health. This includes eating right, drinking plenty of water, avoiding toxins and staying active. I didn’t realize how negatively alcohol, caffeine, lack of sleep, and diet impacted my life. I used to “push through” the day, not listening to my body when I was hungry and jittery. The first step to being mindful is to pay attention to what your body is telling you!
If you want to read more about awakening, enlightenment and consciousness, I recommend taking a look at Conscious Life News. There are some wonderful resources to help guide you along your own spiritual journey!
The practice of mindfulness is not only beneficial to mental and physical health, but also increases productivity thanks to improved concentration and energy. Since making meditation and mindfulness habits in my everyday life, I have enjoyed coming into work each day, use my time more efficiently and have been able to work better.
Being mindful improves focus and awareness, so following these tips can result in being much more creative and effective in the workplace.
1. Be Present
Focusing on one assignment or project at a time is crucial to being mindful in the workplace. When your attention shifts from one distraction to another, it’s important to remember to go back to where you left off and become present in the task at hand.
2. Make Lists
Start your day with a list of “to-dos” to accomplish. Working on one project at a time will help you increase productivity and stay organized. Re-prioritize your list throughout the day if necessary.
3. Mindful Reminders
Write cheerleading statements on post-it note and stick them on your desk. These simple reminders will motivate you and help to stay in the moment. Don’t know how to get started? Begin with simple statements such as “This is only temporary” or “I can do it!”
4. Take a Breather
Step away from the desk and enjoy a walk around the neighborhood or short break to re-group. Give yourself time and space to re-energize throughout your day to improve concentration and overall productivity. I always take a few minutes during lunch to grab a coffee, walk down to the harbor or take photos of downtown Boston. Enjoy the beauty around you!
5. Radical Acceptance
This is one of my favorite DBT skills. Radical acceptance doesn’t mean you have to like everyone or each situation, but it does mean you must accept things for how they are. While you don’t have to agree with someone, it’s important to validate them by acknowledging their thoughts or opinions.
Interrupt anxiety with gratitude! It’s so easy to fall into a negative mindset when something doesn’t go your way. Instead of focusing on your triggers, shift your focus to your blessings. Remember: you’re working, you’re fulfilling a purpose, and you’re needed. Try and focus on the positives and have gratitude for your position, opportunity, coworkers or work output.
7. Mindfulness Exercises
There are a variety of mindfulness exercises you can do at your desk to keep yourself balanced throughout your day. The Harvard Business Review gives tips and a guided breathing exercise to keep you present. According to HBR, “Mindfulness helps increase effectiveness, decrease mistakes, and even enhances creativity.”