Five Ways To Live A High Vibe Life

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I’m a big believer that life is what you make it.

Circumstances may not always seem to get better on the outside, but we do– we have the choice to change within, and to grow stronger from the challenges life throws our way.

There have been a variety of things that have helped my life improve over the past couple of years.  Happiness is cumulative; we don’t magically become content overnight, but each and every day we have the opportunity to add positive things that will build over time.

Start Your Day With An Intention

Having a mental map of what you want to accomplish each morning is important to start the day on the right foot.  Do you intend to be kinder?  Are you hoping to be more grateful?  Would you like to remain mindful?

Maybe your intention is small, but it’s important to remember it throughout the day.  It could make all the difference in turning a frustrating day into a beautiful one!

Eat Clean

Giving up meat and most processed foods has been a slow-go; although I have dabbled with going meatless for the last few of years, it wasn’t until recently that I took it seriously.  Boy, does clean eating change things.

My energy has sky rocketed, workouts are more enjoyable, and I’m doing my part to help the environment.

Avoid Drugs and Alcohol

I’m proud to say I’m a happily sober person.  I used to begrudgingly tell people “I don’t drink,” but today I own my sobriety.  It makes me who I am.

Being substance-free has empowered my life in so many ways.  My intuition is keen, my health has improved, my mind is clear, and I make better decisions.  I no longer wake up in strange places, or do I say things I later forget.

Many of my role models, such as Brené Brown and Wayne Dyer, have written about the benefits of living alcohol-free, and how being sober has enriched their lives.  Why would I want to fit in with the drinking crowd when I could be helping someone who may be struggling by sharing my own story?  That’s badass, if you ask me.

Stay In Your Lane

This was the best advice anyone has ever given me.  When you get into the middle of someone else’s drama (especially when it doesn’t pertain you), you’re immediately sucked into their low vibes.

Sometimes we try and be “fixers,” and that’s totally okay- but know your limits.  It’s great to want to help people, but understand when it’s time to step back.

Gossip in general is low vibe energy, and remember- when you point the finger, there’s three pointing back at yourself.  Many use gossip as a bonding tool (haven’t we all?), but it’s some of the most harmful and hurtful types of bonding there can be.  Be mindful of the company you keep- are they benefiting and enriching your life, or causing you chaos?

Make Time For Joy

As you go about your daily commute, stop and smell the flowers.  Take the time to go in for that latte.  Play in the sprinklers.  Enjoy the sunset.

The most simple pleasures are sometimes to most beneficial- remember not to take them for granted.

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Gossip: It’s Low Vibe Energy

It’s so easy to take things personally, isn’t it?

It has taken me years- and I mean years- to realize that gossip isn’t about me at all; cruel words, secret giggles, and lies are reflections of those speaking them.

A wise person once said “when you point the finger, there’s three pointing back at yourself.”  Although I’ve been fortunate to surround myself with high vibe people, it’s not to say I didn’t spend a large portion of my life not knowing the difference between people with good and bad intentions.

I used to listen to the mean words and think it was my fault.  I listened to everything on the outside and ignored the true feelings in my heart.  These days, I finally know better.

Gossip is nothing but low vibe energy to keep other people down and drag others to their level.

You have the chance to rise above it! 

Trust me, it takes practice, but tuning out those negative messages is completely possible- and once you do, life is so much more peaceful.

Keep doing you. The right people will come your way.

How Living With a High Vibration Changes Your Life and Daily Interactions

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Meet Boz! Pandas symbolize peace, harmony and friendship- this little bear is a wonderful reminder to stop and remember to be kind to yourself as well as those around you- even if low vibes try and stand in your way.

It’s so interesting to see how living with a high vibration can change your everyday encounters with the people around you.

Case in point, at my last job (a stern law office with many unhappy people), my happy-go-lucky personality and friendly demeanor was, well, uncomfortable for others.  It took me a month or two to realize this, but then after watching an episode of “Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt” I realized I probably had to tone it down a notch (does anyone know what episode I’m talking about?  So good).

Nevertheless, I tried.  I tried to “keep my head down,” stay quiet, and focus on work I had no interest in. It was nearly impossible though, because as a creative type and lightworker, I wanted to engage, connect, and make the office more pleasant.  Alas, I was required to take orders from young attorneys who didn’t understand social media and type up documents I wasn’t trained on.

After three and a half months of this, I knew this legal job would be the last; as I stepped into the person I have learned I am, I needed to find a more suitable environment.

Perhaps this job would have worked well for me when I arrived in Boston in December 2016. I was broken yet optimistic, eager to learn yet still finding her footing. The structure of a more corporate environment could have shaped me into a completely different person than I am today- but fortunately, I was surrounded by healing, artistic, loving people who taught me the joys of meditation, kindness, and self-love.

That brings me to today- over a year and a half after I first arrived in Boston to start a new life.  I have come a long way since that chilly December morning when I landed at Logan Airport, and my self-discovery journey will continue every day for the rest of my life.

In my first Mindful in Style YouTube video, I chatted about how carrying a high vibration can affect you (and others) in even a fun, energetic environment where you feel of service and (think you) fit in.  Something small, yet still stung, happened today- but I was able to quickly put it into perspective.

Perhaps I could have taken their comments the wrong way, or perhaps others actually were being cruel- but as I left my new job today, I heard people making fun of me when they thought I had left.

Had I not used a goofy word, “weekend-ish,” been so upbeat, or flat out said “this job is fun,” perhaps they wouldn’t have teased me.  Maybe it didn’t matter what I did.  Maybe they’re going through their own issues. Despite the reasons, it does not matter.

I don’t have to let the outside world determine my internal condition.

As I looked at Boz the bear when I came home today, I smiled and sat on my bed.  I remembered how far I have come, and how petty frustration or sensitivity is so unimportant in my life today.  I can finally say goodbye to the defensive, snappy person with a guard up and a chip on her shoulder and live with grace, not aggression.

Hopefully those people enjoy their weekend as much as I do, and maybe, just maybe, they’ll use the word “weekend-ish” one day, too.