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Mindful Moments in the City Lights

The Public Garden is such a magical place in Boston. I spent my last evening of the long weekend strolling the park and taking in the beautiful city lights glistening on the pond. With my journal in hand, I sat on a bench and wrote out my intentions for the week.

Preparing for the days ahead by centering myself has been so helpful in staying grounded through stressful times.

Whenever I’m feeling uneasy, I just go back to my intentions and remember all the beauty around me.

Living with intention is key to a purposeful life- so don’t forget to take in those mindful moments of sitting in the park or enjoying the city lights. ✨

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Connecting With Intention

“Connectors have an uplifting effect when they come into contact with people who are living in lower energy levels. Their peacefulness causes others to feel calm and assured, and they radiate an energy of serenity and peace. They’re not interested in winning arguments or accumulating allies. Rather than trying to persuade you to think like they do, they’re convincing through the energy they exude. People feel loved by connectors, because they’re merged with the Source of all life, which is love.” -Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, The Power of Intention

I’ve written before how our thoughts create our reality. Some skeptics may try and say this isn’t true; “then why do bad things manifest in my life?” they ask. My answer is simple:

“It’s not about what happens to you; it’s how you react to it.”

Everything in life is a lesson. From the best moments to the painful ones, each opportunity we experience provides a lesson for us to grow from. Often times, people don’t realize how their perception or thoughts limit their true potential. I’m not just talking about achieving great accomplishments or goals- it can be as simple as setting out to have a good day.

I spent this past Thanksgiving away from my family in Michigan, as I have many other years before. Some people may find this sad, but I intended to have a fulfilling day, having gratitude for all of the gifts in my life. My Thanksgiving was spent with friends, enjoying the crisp air, and eating Chinese food back at the house. Was this a traditional holiday? Of course not. But my thoughts shaped my reality.

As I walked through Harvard Yard with a friend yesterday, I felt a sense of gratitude and peace. I’ve come a long way since arriving in Boston two years ago; yet, upon my move to the city, my intentions were set. I intended on creating my own life here, finding a home, and making a living. I did it. Had I questioned myself, doubted what I could achieve, or worried about controlling the outcome, I would have blocked the abundance that came my way.

As you connect with intention and set out for your life to divinely unfold, anxiety slips away, synchronicities appear, and a new peace is discovered.

Intentions are simply unseen energies that lie within each of us- and you have the power to watch them manifest into your reality.

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Strong and Secure- Setting Intentions

Each moon cycle I set an intention. On occasion I hope for something tangible, such as securing a new job or accomplishment, and other times I aim to let something go.

As the moon phases pass, I try to release what no longer serves, focus on improving myself, and live by the intentions I set.

This past New Moon, my intention was strength.

Strength means a lot of things to me. It can mean being assertive and confident, resilient through life’s challenges, or living with grace and grit. Strength has helped me pick up and move across the country, walk into interviews with ease, and hold my head high when life tried to pull me down.

I used to try and be a chameleon in life, seeking to fit in so I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable. Not anymore. I have learned how standing in my truth has helped me get into alignment with the right people, opportunities, but most importantly, my own self.

It’s okay to stand out in the crowd… and it’s a beautiful thing to be different. Instead of lowering my head or watering myself down, my intention is to be strong and secure- no matter what life brings my way.

Read about Friday’s Full Moon here.

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There’s No Such Thing As “Bored;” Creating Your Own Life

“Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.”

~Oscar Wilde

As a writer and artist, I’m personally offended by the term “boredom.”

“You’re not bored,” I always think when someone tells me this. “You just aren’t willing to use your imagination.”

As Berry Draper once said to her restless children, “only boring people are bored.” Although this is a little harsh, I agree with Mad Men’s leading lady.

Being “bored” is being blind to all the opportunities around us.

On Saturday, I spent the day walking around Boston. A few people asked if I was going to go visit my friend in Arlington as I did a couple weeks before. “No,” I replied. “I’m going to the Back Bay to have a ‘Kristin day.'”

“Doing what?” they wondered, perplexed.

I just looked at them. “Taking pictures, writing, window shopping. Meditation, relaxing.”

It’s shocking how people think there needs to be a grand reason. It’s also surprising to me how few people enjoy being alone. There’s always something to do, see, think about, or create. Whether it’s admiring the window displays on Newbury Street or taking a walk down Commonwealth Avenue, experiencing the world outside and the beauty all around is much more rewarding than sitting in front of a television.

I’d prefer to write my own story instead of watching someone else’s fictional version on TV.

If you ever find yourself into the “boredom trap,” just think- what haven’t I seen? Where haven’t I been? What haven’t I read? What can I write?

When you create your own days instead of waiting for life to happen, you’ll be amazed at what you find.

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Happy People: Looking Inward

“The happiest people I know are evaluating and improving themselves. The unhappy people are usually evaluating and judging others.”

This quote appeared today in my Instagram feed from Wild Woman Sisterhood, a powerful page that empowers and unites women.

This quote made me reflect on the people in my life, the doubts I’ve had about myself, and my own inner journey.

Some people around me have viewed me as closed off lately. It’s quite the opposite. As I protect my own energy and try to bring light to the darkness, I welcome meaningful conversations and support, but avoid the low vibe energy, gossip, and drama.

It’s easy to point the finger at others when you’re feeling worried or insecure, but remember: the most fulfilling journey is inward. You may be surprised at all of the wonderful things you discover. 💫

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Manifesting on 11/11/18: Inspired By My Future in Boston

It’s been a beautiful day in Boston, and I spent 11/11 doing the things that inspire me, bring me peace, and give me hope for the future.

Spending time in the Back Bay never fails to center me. It’s my favorite neighborhood in the city, and gave me a sense of home after moving here from New York City. From the quaint shops on Newbury Street to the tranquil aura of the Public Garden, I felt like I was taking an Uptown stroll to Central Park.

I used to think my future was in New York, but Boston has proved to be a much calmer, more relatable city to me. I moved here by myself, quickly creating my own home, new hopes and big dreams.

Wherever you go, there you are- and I’ve grown to love who I am here in Boston.

As I walked through the garden and sat by the Swan Pond, I thought of everything I hope for my future to hold. At precisely 11:11AM, I journaled in my notebook and admired the autumn colors all around me. One day, I dream of a home of my own where I can walk out my front door and enjoy the park. I dream of endless days writing on a park bench, inspiring others to fulfill their dreams, and being fully self sufficient.

Over the past couple of years I have had to take a few steps back to move forward- and I’ve grown stronger in the process. In a city where old meets new, I’m confident I was guided to come here- and with time, I know I’ll move even closer to embodying my purpose.

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Family of Intent

It’s been almost two years in Boston- and what an adventure it has been.

When I first moved here, I only knew one person- a cute guy who I only talked to for my first two weeks. Knowing it wasn’t going anywhere, I moved on and proceeded to focus on myself- I found a place to live, a job, and new friends.

That first friend was Brenda, who welcomed me into her home, “The Nest,” complete with a cuddly cat and a basket full of slippers. She was precious; a friend who was such an angel I didn’t feel I deserved her. I was far from perfect-and I still am- but after two years, I recognize that she has always seen the light in me when I couldn’t see it for myself. Friendships like that are invaluable.

The holidays are coming up, and like the past few years, I’m spending it away from my family in Michigan. This doesn’t bother me. As much as I miss them, I have learned a valuable lesson from Brenda:

Your family can extend to your family of intent.

We develop soul connections over the years, meeting people of all walks of life who fill our hearts and help us become better people. Sometimes our own families may not understand or relate to us as those on the outside do; which is why it’s so important to realize your family of intent- the family you choose for yourself- is just as crucial as your own blood relatives.

No matter what your plans are for the holidays this year, remember how important authenticity and being true to yourself is. Cherish the people who love and understand you. Have gratitude for those who will lend a listening ear no matter what. Most importantly, try not to shy away from people who love you for all of your flaws. I may not always feel I deserve wonderful people in my life like my own mother, friends like Brenda, or even the love from a sweet feline, but I do.

I’m worthy of pure love- and so are you.

Sometimes, it takes your family of intent to help you recognize you’re beautiful for your gifts, your flaws, and the path you have walked.

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Being Mindful of Your Social Media Consumption

I recently went through a major social media purge.

As I strolled through Copley Square checking my morning feed, I noticed how many irrelevant posts popped up on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. Invitations to events across the country. Photo comments from people I hadn’t met. Accounts I followed that haven’t been used for years. From fashion brands to people I briefly knew in college, I wondered, “do I need to be seeing this?”

We underestimate how much the internet and media can flood our brains.

In my daily mindfulness practice, it’s also important for me to be mindful of what I consume online, too.

In one of my previous lives I was a fashion blogger, where I connected with brands, big and small, from all over the world. In one of my earlier pieces, “How a Fashion Blogger Became Minimalist,” I wrote about my shift in priorities, stressing the importance of quality over quantity, finding a signature style, but most importantly- finding happiness within.

Although I will never give up my love for style, it no longer makes me feel whole. I stopped looking at what everyone else “had,” and began finding happiness in my own world; not the world that someone portrays through a lens. This also goes for any social media use.

Whether it’s fashion, a lavish vacation, or a family photo, it’s been important for me to remember that looks can be deceiving. While I hope everyone feels content in their own skin, you can’t judge a book by its cover.

Instead of focusing on what everyone else is doing, get out there, enjoy the simple pleasures, and create your own mindful life that you love.