Where I See Myself

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“I want to write. I want to write stories that make people feel less alone than I did. I want to make people laugh about the things in life that are painful. That’s what I want to do.” –Hannah, Girls

I am finally finishing Girls, one of my favorite TV shows.  Over the past couple of years I’ve been absorbed in my own life, without HBO (until now) or television in general.  However, it’s a good thing I am finishing the series when I am, because the synchronicities between Hannah Horvath and myself are out of control.

Not only is she an only child from Michigan like me, she moved to New York City with the dream of becoming a writer.  She got herself into ridiculous situations, met a plethora of crazy characters, and even was published in the Modern Love section of the New York Times- yet another goal of mine.

When asked where she wanted to be in three to five years by author Chuck Palmer (who stated how much he loves Traverse City, my hometown), she told him she wanted to write.

The vulnerability of writing is powerful, healing, and helpful to others- and like Hannah, I want to write to make people not feel so alone, too.

I’ve never been good at “jobs;” as a creative person, I’ve struggled in office environments.  I’ve had creative differences with people I have worked for.  I have had a vision, a dream, and a wild streak- something that employers generally don’t value or understand.

Freelance writing is something I am looking to do full-time, yet working on my book is my top priority right now.  In addition to writing two Modern Love stories, I have an outline for a fictional, yet semi-autobiographical book based on my life in New York City and beyond.

We will see where my path leads, but I know who I am, and I know what I am good at.  I know my dreams and goals, and in this chapter, I won’t let sitting at someone else’s desk get in my way.

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11/11/18: A Powerful Day Of Manifestation

Did you know 11/11/18 is one of the most powerful days for manifestation?

2018 is an 11 year (2 + 0 + 1 + 8 = 11), which holds the energy of creation, spiritual enlightenment, and authentic expression. With three 11’s in the date, the energy is amplified, being three times as powerful.

Even the actual shape of the number 11 represents a gateway; if you notice, you’ll see how 11 looks like two pillars. This gateway is a direct portal between divine inspiration and grounded manifestation.

Do you ever wonder why you continually receive the same ideas over and over, but haven’t acted on them? Perhaps you see all the signs, have repeating thoughts, or hear messages from others reminding you of these ideas. For me, my own passion for helping others through writing has manifested over the years, but I continue to wonder how to take it further. What is the universe telling me? Even more importantly, how do I act on it to bring my ideas to life?

I have big goals and dreams, and I know you do too.

11/11 is the time to stop, meditate, and ask for guidance.

Think about what your heart truly desires. What signs keep leading you in that direction? What actions can you take now to bring your ideas to life?

For 11/11, there are many steps you can take to manifest your divine inspiration into reality.

First, clear your energy. You can do this through meditation, smudging (I recommend white sage), lighting incense, or clearing your aura with crystals. Clear Quartz is a powerful crystal for clearing work as well as amplifying the energy of your own spirit and the other crystals in your collection.

Next, find a quiet space to write down your dreams and goals. Focus on what you do want, not the things you don’t. Whether you write these goals down or create a vision board, your creative efforts will be recognized by the universe and the spirit guides who help lead you on the right path.

Now, ask for guidance. Meditation is a powerful way to let your guides know your intentions. I try and meditate for at least a half hour every day- sometimes longer. By centering my mind and spirit, I am able to clear the outside noise and connect with my higher, authentic self- the self I am meant to be.

It’s common to be confused about what your heart actually desires when society can sway you in many different directions. Meditation assists in reaching into your soul, not media messages or what someone else’s opinion is.

This 11/11, tap into what your soul’s calling is, and visualize the future you wish to manifest. Your thoughts are powerful, and so is your ability to create a life you love. ✨

Let’s Write Our Own Life Stories

It’s amazing how many inspiring people I’ve had the opportunity to connect with through my writing. Just the other morning I woke up to an email from a lovely girl named Celine.

She had discovered a piece of mine on Thought Catalog that resonated with her own powerful message:

“When did we start to receive raised eyebrows and concerned looks when talking about our hopes and dreams?

How odd is it to live life as we are supposed to? Like, how weird?

All we get is one life to live. Every day we experience is unique and will never come again. Ever. Time goes in only one direction and it starts running out the second we are born. And yet we spend hours and days and years and maybe even a lifetime trying to live up on other’s expectations.”

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I read her email. It was as if I had met a soul sister- and I did! 💞

After watching her video, I sent her an email to let her know how amazing it was how she is spreading this message at such a young age- although I’ve always lived the life I loved, in the back of my mind I still questioned myself.

Despite following my dreams, I allowed society to make me feel inferior or “weird” compared to those who followed a conventional path.

Here’s a little breakdown of my life, post-college:

  • When I was 21, I thought I needed to get a corporate job to be considered successful.
  • When I was 22, I got engaged.
  • When I was 23, I called it off and moved to San Francisco.
  • When I was 25, I thought I needed a relationship that was on the road to marriage.
  • When I was 27, I created a fashion blog to validate myself to others.
  • When I was 29, I moved to New York City and thought I needed to work in fashion and make a lot of money to “be someone.”
  • When I was 31, none of the above “worked” for me and I finally stopped concerning myself with outside forces, moved to Boston, and became honest with both myself and others.

I started Mindful in Style on December 7th, 2016, and it’s been an amazing journey ever since. I learned vulnerability is a gift, and being different is one of the biggest blessings that I never even asked for.

Life is all about following what is in your heart, listening to your intuition, and enjoying the journey.

It’s not about what others think, what you “should” do, or where you’re at in the timeline of life.

There IS no timeline.

Celine has been a wonderful inspiration to both myself and thousands of others on YouTube. I’m grateful there are many other young women who know that outside validation won’t determine your worth or value to the world.

Your value comes from within.

Thank you, Celine, for reaching out to me. You have been a shining light in my life this past week! 💫

Stop Letting Distractions Stand In Your Way

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Living life in limbo is inevitable from time to time, but today I had an epiphany:

When you’re working toward a goal, don’t try and fill your life with other things to provide comfort.

Keep moving.  Focus on your mark.  You’ll get there.

I chatted with a friend about this earlier today- we are both writers working on our own brands, yet we have both been guilty of letting distractions alter our mindset.  Why on earth would we let other people, places, or things stand in our way?  While she’s out in Los Angeles working toward her dreams, and I’m here in Boston working on mine. It was wonderful and perfect to connect with her about where I’m at right now, because she’s in the same spot, too!

Oh, I just love how life works out.  Just as we started to feel a bit irritable and discontent about our “distractions,” we both passed the tests and recognized that we need to get back to work.

People and situations will come into your life when they’re supposed to, but don’t try and manipulate the situation.  Whether you’re filling your time with a new TV series or going out on dates for no good reason, stop.  I’m serious.  Everything falls into place as it should, including those uncomfortable moments.  Don’t dig yourself into a deeper hole and get off track.

Each moment teaches you a lesson- so remember your goal, stay on your path, and you’ll be just fine. ❤

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Connecting the Mind, Body, and Spirit

When in the world did I become a gym person?

Well, I suppose this is proof that you can “never say never!”

A few years ago I wrote a post for Broke Ass Stuart titled, “Going to the Gym is Awkward.” Although I still agree that the concept of working out in a public setting can be a little strange, my opinion has changed a bit- and that is all thanks to the gym I discovered… and the change in myself.

Instead of being a scene or a social media bragging point (is that what this is? I hope not 😜), the gym has become my safe haven. My place of stress relief. An outlet for me to release my energy. Unlike other gyms I have been to, this one is all women- and unlike some yoga studios or bro-show gyms I have been to, I am comfortable at this one.

Not only is this gym different, but I am, too. My willingness to focus on healthy stress-relieving activities has overridden my old habits of being destructive, anxious, or stir crazy. My mornings spent writing in bed with coffee now include leaving the house by 6AM to catch the bus for my workout. My evenings that were once filled with mindless dates, Netflix, or happy hours are now spent working on myself- and growing even more comfortable in my own skin.

I started a new job two months ago today, and it was finally time to fill my out-of-the-office time with something other than long walks, thrift shopping, episodes of Mrs. Maisel, and writing. It was time to work on myself- even more.

For me, the gym isn’t about losing weight or the physical- it is to connect the mind, body, and spirit. It’s not about goals, camaraderie, or teams- it’s about my own mental strength.

It’s about feeling stronger, more confident as a woman, and whole- on my own.

The past two years have been all about shedding bad habits, learning new skills, and becoming more mindful- so now felt like the perfect time to add an additional facet to my life.

Although I swore I would never be a gym person- let alone take a photo in the mirror at the gym- I feel it is finally authentic. It’s for me… and it feels good.

I wouldn’t expect any more gym selfies, but I will keep you posted on how the next few weeks go- and if the gym has helped me in staying more focused at work, calm during stress, and even more connected with my soul- and the people around me.

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San Francisco Soul

Ten years ago today I moved outside of Michigan for the first time in my life.  Taking a one way flight to SFO, I moved in with two girls I had never met, into an apartment I had only seen in photos.  Making a major life decision based on intuition, I felt an amazing feeling of euphoria for the first time in my life: it was a feeling of freedom.

A chance to start new.  A city to be free to find myself.

I had just called off my wedding and knew there was a lot more out there for me; but I had no idea what that would be.  Little did I know what a winding path I would have since that April evening!  My first days, months, and year in San Francisco was such a special time in my life- one that I will never, ever forget. ✨

Never be scared to follow your intuition and take risks- your heart knows that way.

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One Step at a Time

Setting goals for ourselves is an important part of life.  There are so many things we dream of- from an early age our parents encourage us to study hard, succeed in a sport or hobby, and get into a good college.  None of those things happen magically, though; we must take steps.

Over the years I have gotten discouraged when I didn’t meet my goals fast enough or see results immediately.  I’ve compared myself to others around me, only to question how well I was doing: but comparison is the thief of joy.  We each have our own path, and everything happens for a reason.  Life will never pan out the way we think it will- the Universe likes to surprise us (and that’s the fun part!).

As I have gotten older I have started to enjoy the journey and stop focusing on the finish line- after all, isn’t life about the little moments?

I’m currently working on a book and hope to become a full-time writer by the end of the year.  Writing has been a shining light in my life, and connecting with others gives me great joy and a sense of purpose.  Last summer I started reaching out to publishing agents, editors, and other bloggers to connect with to share my work.  I made a few connections, but it wasn’t exactly what I was hoping for.  That’s because it wasn’t time yet.

I have to remember to have faith and continue to take one step at a time.  I know the Universe and God have a plan for me- but they’re not ready to uncover it.  I still have pages to write and a journey to walk.

By writing a little each day, sending my work out to other websites, and engaging in personal development, I’m setting myself up for each next step.  It’s important to remember to celebrate each and every victory- no matter how big or small!  For example, it was exciting to hear from Thought Catalog last January after I wrote a post on minimalism– they emailed me out of nowhere and asked to use my work!  I’ve been writing for them ever since, and have recently starting contributing to Elephant Journal, too.

It’s easy to get impatient.  I’ve given up, backtracked, or gotten depressed when things didn’t go exactly as planned.  I’ve changed courses only to find myself going right back to what my heart was originally telling me.  Your heart will always guide you in the right direction.

Your goals, hopes, and dreams will happen when they’re supposed to happen; so don’t get discouraged.  Each day counts.  Make a list, chip away a little bit, and try your best.  Even when you’re feeling down (like I was), your faith will make you stronger- set your intention, believe, and keep going.

Even when the steps seem difficult to take, remember: they count.  Each and every step adds up to something bigger.

Keep climbing and believing in yourself; the world will believe in you too.