Let’s Write Our Own Life Stories

It’s amazing how many inspiring people I’ve had the opportunity to connect with through my writing. Just the other morning I woke up to an email from a lovely girl named Celine.

She had discovered a piece of mine on Thought Catalog that resonated with her own powerful message:

“When did we start to receive raised eyebrows and concerned looks when talking about our hopes and dreams?

How odd is it to live life as we are supposed to? Like, how weird?

All we get is one life to live. Every day we experience is unique and will never come again. Ever. Time goes in only one direction and it starts running out the second we are born. And yet we spend hours and days and years and maybe even a lifetime trying to live up on other’s expectations.”

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I read her email. It was as if I had met a soul sister- and I did! 💞

After watching her video, I sent her an email to let her know how amazing it was how she is spreading this message at such a young age- although I’ve always lived the life I loved, in the back of my mind I still questioned myself.

Despite following my dreams, I allowed society to make me feel inferior or “weird” compared to those who followed a conventional path.

Here’s a little breakdown of my life, post-college:

  • When I was 21, I thought I needed to get a corporate job to be considered successful.
  • When I was 22, I got engaged.
  • When I was 23, I called it off and moved to San Francisco.
  • When I was 25, I thought I needed a relationship that was on the road to marriage.
  • When I was 27, I created a fashion blog to validate myself to others.
  • When I was 29, I moved to New York City and thought I needed to work in fashion and make a lot of money to “be someone.”
  • When I was 31, none of the above “worked” for me and I finally stopped concerning myself with outside forces, moved to Boston, and became honest with both myself and others.

I started Mindful in Style on December 7th, 2016, and it’s been an amazing journey ever since. I learned vulnerability is a gift, and being different is one of the biggest blessings that I never even asked for.

Life is all about following what is in your heart, listening to your intuition, and enjoying the journey.

It’s not about what others think, what you “should” do, or where you’re at in the timeline of life.

There IS no timeline.

Celine has been a wonderful inspiration to both myself and thousands of others on YouTube. I’m grateful there are many other young women who know that outside validation won’t determine your worth or value to the world.

Your value comes from within.

Thank you, Celine, for reaching out to me. You have been a shining light in my life this past week! 💫

Healing Crystals To Support Your Work

Lately I’ve been in the habit of keeping stones with me.  Depending on where I’m going and what I’ll be doing, I will pick a stone to keep in my pocket throughout the day.

After starting to carry these gems with me on an everyday basis, I became curious to learn which stones may benefit me at work, too.

Although I have a daily practice of meditation, enjoying my coffee, and reading in the morning, I need to remember my “zen” throughout the day, too.  I often need to reset at lunch time to breathe, take a walk, and clear my mind.  The stones have been helpful reminders to calm my brain, slow down, and take it easier on myself.  When I feel nervous or antsy, I just reach in my pocket!  The stone is a symbol to keep me conscious and to stay in the moment.  Do crystals actually do anything?  I don’t have a scientific answer for that; but I do know they have been used for centuries (and I would never turn down additional support!) and have helped many long before my time.

Patience, communication, and sense of peace are absolutely necessary in your everyday work, so I looked up which stones would be helpful for focus, creativity, and working with others.

Rose Quartz

Representing unconditional love, this pretty pink stone is a favorite of many.  Rose Quartz opens the heart chakra and promotes friendship, self acceptance, harmony, and healing.  This is an ideal stone in any profession when working with others; this crystal allows us to feel compassion and understanding.  This is so commonly taken for granted in the workplace!  When you open your heart and think of your job as purposeful, the day simply goes by faster, everything flows easier, and you leave feeling better.  Empathy, care, and compassion goes a long way at work- each day I feel as if I have accomplished something good, which is a very new feeling for me after leaving the traditional business world.

Opalite

Opalite supports all levels of communication, opening any emotional blockages, psychic abilities, and strengthening your spiritual connection.  It doesn’t hurt that it’s so pretty- it shines iridescent shades of pink, blue, and purple.  Opalite is an ideal stone for life transitions, especially when facing a big decision.  It’s an amazing tool for opening the third eye- the chakra of intuition.  As my one year in Boston approaches (tomorrow!), I look back on how my own third eye assisted in my decision to start a new life in Massachusetts.  Although I’ve been living on “gut feelings” for as long as I can remember, that was the third eye in action.  Opalite is also great for mood swings, increasing energy, overcoming fatigue, and encourages persistence.  This is a power stone to aid all areas of life!

Amethyst 

This powerful and protective stone is not only beautiful, but it also benefits the immune system (which is always good in a school!).  Amethyst is most commonly known to support the crown chakra, which is your connection to the divine and your higher self.  Spiritual awareness, healing, inner peace, and balance are among the many benefits of amethyst, which are all perfect for any educator, writer, or artist.

Not only are these gemstones lovely, they each support your mind, body, and spirit.  I’ll admit, I’m hooked!  In addition to my pocket stones, I also love wearing crystal bracelets to boost my good vibes.  If you’re in the Boston area, my favorite stores for crystals are Seven Stars (Central Square, Cambridge) and ZuZu’s Healing Arts (Downtown Melrose).  You’ll even get a free stone at ZuZu’s when it’s your first time in!

What stones do you love for everyday healing?

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Citrine, Amethyst, and Chakra Bracelets from Seven Stars

Embracing Playfulness 

If you’ve been following along for a while, you probably know how much I love angel cards.  Just when I need an answer, my intuition (which I like to think of as a nudge from the divine) guides me to exactly the right card I need at that moment.  I’ve also begun to give other people readings, which is even more fun!  My connection with source has been one of the most comforting and clear indications that I am on the right track to living out my purpose, which is to help guide others and carry important messages.  But how?

One of the cards that repeatedly comes up in my readings is “Playfulness.”  Each time I wondered why- why would I get this card?


Then, it clicked.  I’ve been so concerned about the past and the future that haven’t been living in the now.  Instead of embracing playfulness, I have been taking life too seriously.

I needed a reset.

After a decade of working in business related jobs and marketing roles, my heart kept telling me it wasn’t right.  Not only did my heart lead me in different directions, so did my bosses.  They didn’t like when I challenged the way things worked or stood up for my creative ideas.  I knew I was wasting my time and talents.

It can be a challenge being an indigo child in any work environment, let alone in an industry where money and greed takes over.  I didn’t care about “goals” or sales numbers- I cared about authenticity.  

Throughout the years many of my jobs or projects were unfulfilling or seemed unethical, too.  How could I market or represent things I didn’t believe in- or worse, didn’t benefit people?  It was hard to play, live in the now, and feel good about myself when I wasn’t aligned with my purpose.

A month ago I put my foot down and decided to take a break.  I did a lot of thinking, meditating, reading, and praying.  During this time I barely wrote, hardly left the house, and certainly wasn’t social.  It was a very uncomfortable time… until I received the message.

One afternoon I opened my inbox to find an email from a school administrator about bringing me in for an interview.  Even though I applied for the job, had never thought seriously about working in a school; when I was a kid, I spent most of my time with adults.  I was the shy one in class who didn’t let loose and play; I was too embarrassed to show the world who I was.

Until now.

Shortly after, I was scheduled to substitute teach at three different elementary schools.  I was shocked, thrilled, and scared.  Although I grew up in that environment- my mother was an elementary school secretary- I had very little experience with large groups of children.  Yet somehow, for some reason, it felt like it was exactly what I should be doing.  My gut feeling told me I would be good at teaching, although I had never done it before.  However, I knew that my ten years of handling nearly impossible businessmen had toughened me up to effectively communicate with anyone.  You have a much better chance at getting your message across to children than trying to teach an old dog new tricks.

After my first day- despite feeling nervous and a little shy- I felt more alive than I have in years.  For the first time, I felt I was doing something meaningful in the workplace.  The very first time.  Each day got a little easier, and I felt more comfortable.


Spending time in a school environment has also helped to mend my own wounds, too.  Childhood was difficult for me; I was an old soul who was singled out.  I was too shy and insecure to let loose, be a kid, and play.  Today, I am beyond grateful to be able to make even a tiny difference in a child’s life; I can recognize those who are uncomfortable, struggling, or need someone to talk to.  I understand what it is like when you don’t know who to sit by at lunch, how it feels to be bullied, and to be different than the other kids.  Thanks to my own experiences, I can empathize yet also stand my ground with the kids who act out.  Without my childhood experiences and challenges in the workplace over the years, I wouldn’t be as patient and compassionate as I am able to be today.

While I don’t know whether I am going to pursue a full time role in teaching (we can’t plan our futures- we can only be guided), I do know that education is much closer to my destiny than anything I have ever done.  It goes hand-in-hand with writing, public speaking, and philanthropy- all passions of mine.  I know I am on the right path- at last.

I’m also grateful for the opportunity to work in an environment where play is embraced.  Instead of standing in the back of the class and watching everyone dance and have fun like I did as a child, I have started to join in… as an adult.  I could see some of the kids who were hesitant to dance watch me act silly, so they started to dance, too.

Thanks to the children, I am learning what it feels like to be even closer to consciousness- to still have that wide-eyed wonder that hasn’t yet been polluted by society.  It is a magical, warm feeling- and just because I am a grown-up, it doesn’t mean I have to let that magic go.  I will hold on to it each and every day. 💫