A Little Pizzazz on Casual Friday

Today I picked out a pearl-embellished little black dress to wear to work.  It’s Friday, which calls for a little pizzazz.

Even a gal who doesn’t “party” anymore can enjoy a flouncy dress to ring in the weekend, right?

Of course she can.

I strolled through Cambridge, Dunkin Donuts in hand and my Karen Walker shades on.  I felt fantastic, with a Holly Golightly energy about me.

Dressing up gives me life!

I hopped onto the bus in Harvard Square and headed into the office.  Listening to a song that I envisioned as the soundtrack to my glamorous morning commute, I closed my eyes and felt grateful for this summer day.

I hopped off the bus and walked into my office.  As I sat at my desk, a coworker walked by and said hello.

“You look nice today,” he remarked.

“Thank you,”  I replied.

“I say this because it’s casual Friday,” he continued.  “You don’t have to dress up.”

“I know.”  I smiled.  Dressing up makes me happy.”

Although it’s Friday and I could have worn jeans, life is about the moments- especially the small ones- that bring you joy.  Slow down and smell the flowers, spritz on that special perfume, and splurge on a delicious lunch.

Here’s to Casual Friday- and doing what gives your own workday a little pizzazz.

Someone to Quietly Sit With

Yesterday wasn’t anything out of the ordinary- yet it was a delightful Saturday afternoon.

It was one of those sunny, frigid December days; the type of day when you need sunglasses and gloves. With my notebook and planner in hand, I crept into a cafe for coffee and a warm place to write.

I spotted an empty seat by the window and hoped it would still be there by the time I ordered my drink. However, not only did I notice the empty seat- I noticed a familiar face at the spot next to what I hoped to be mine.

I remembered this person from the summer- we had sat next to each other at the window on the opposite side of the cafe. Just like me, he seemed to prefer the window seats- and just like the time before, I had my journal, planner, and black coffee.

We said a few words this time- chatting about the cold weather, our birthdays, and the dark winter days. He offered me his New Yorker magazine after writing in silence, looking out the window, and sipping warm drinks.

You always wonder what will come out of something like this; you wonder what the stranger sitting next to you will say, what they’ll do, or if you will ever see them again.

However, Saturday afternoon was perfect; because sometimes it’s just nice to have someone to quietly sit with.

You’re Not Responsible For What Others Think Of You

As I walked through the Harvard Coop the other day, I passed the self-help section for inspiration.  Per usual, something stuck out:

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Just when I needed it, this book struck me (and now I’m #1 on the waiting list to check it out at the library… more thoughts on it to follow!). 

Over the past few months I have been working on setting healthy boundaries, staying in my own lane, and speaking my mind without cowering down.  Not only have I been attracting people who have been in alignment with my values, people at a lower vibration haven’t been approaching me as often.  Some people in my life have even thanked me for my honesty; I’ve shared things they may not have said themselves and have helped to inspire them to be a little bit more transparent.

Although I’ve never thought of it this way, it’s a courageous act to put an end to relentless people pleasing.  As Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “What other people think of me is none of my business. One of the highest places you can get to is being independent of the good opinions of other people.”

If I were to walk into a room with 10 people, there would be 10 different opinions of me. Do I need to take each one to heart?  Do I need to conform to please each and every one of these people?

Of course not- that would be silly.

One of the biggest freedoms I have found is being happy within my own skin, independent of what the outside world has to say.  One of my biggest joys is to connect with other people on a deeper, meaningful level, but it’s not possible to please everyone.

First, you must be comfortable within your own truth.

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