People always seem to come in your life at just the right time. This morning, that’s what happened to me. ✨
After getting a message from a friend out of the blue, we had a great conversation about self confidence, empowerment, and body image. She explained how self doubt is negatively impacting certain areas of her life, including her relationship with her boyfriend.
Instead of trusting in his love for her, she constantly questions whether or not she is worthy of his affection. To me, of course, this seems ridiculous. She’s a beautiful, talented, fun girl- and I wish she saw herself through my eyes. Nevertheless, I said to her:
“Remember: You are enough.”
I was told this over a year ago by a special friend, but it took me a while to understand what she meant. Now I get it- we all have our own unique talents and gifts, and we can’t be everything to everyone- however, it’s important to love and be enough for ourselves.
I could tell her this 20 times every day, but ultimately, she needs to believe it for herself.
Without a solid foundation, reframing your thoughts, and seeing life through a new lens, it’s hard to believe in yourself. Paralyzing, even. Through my own experiences and mindfulness journey, I’m confident I will be able to help her, and others, shift their perspectives and see themselves in a different light. I hope to help her develop so much confidence that it won’t matter to her what her boyfriend or his family thinks. She will love herself so much that she would be able to take or leave outside validation.
Now, I would never say, “ditch the guy!” or state that someone should be alone, but for my own happiness, I had to spend nearly four years on my own. I had to relearn who Kristin was. Sure, I dated (which provided great lessons), but I haven’t been in a relationship since 2014. I’ve learned to love myself, appreciate being on my own, and because of this, I am confident I will bring that much more to my next relationship because I know who I am.
Wherever you’re at in your own life, it’s important to remember that you must set a foundation to build upon before trying to grow. Whether it be with your relationship, family, career, or health, I am here to help give you the tools to feel at peace no matter what your situation.
Once you’re happy with yourself, the world becomes much more clear. Miracles begin to happen. And, ultimately, you’ll thrive- no matter what that means to you.
By combining skills I have learned through spiritual guides, DBT therapy, mindfulness, journaling, thought reframing, and my own intuition, I am looking forward to helping more and more women find their own beautiful life worth living- and time will tell how that will manifest. 💞