Creating a New Storyline

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Have you ever stopped to think about the storyline you have created for your life?

You know, the things you tell yourself that you begin to believe; beliefs that shape your life and your values.  These beliefs may be true, but often they are not.  These stories can both encourage you and hold you back; so why would you choose to paint a picture of negativity?  There are many life events that can result in a negative outlook, but I have good news for you:

It is never too late to change your storyline.

I used to tell myself that I was too sensitive, too quiet or too complicated.  Growing up as an artistic only child, I was labeled a “bookworm,” as I didn’t have as much in common with my peers as the other kids my age.  This negatively shaped my thinking well into adulthood, as I didn’t realize my value to others until I began to allow meaningful friendships into my life.

Due to my own fear of not being accepted by my peers, I avoided letting people in.  My storyline told me that I was meant to walk as a lone wolf, that I was misunderstood and that people would forever judge me.  This was merely a fear.

Although it has taken me many years to accept (and cherish!) what makes me different and unique, today I realize that any fears that I may have are simply situations I am creating in my own head.  Thanks to amazing friendships, mentors and my own practices of mindfulness and spirituality, I am no longer afraid to use my talents to rise to the top.  Today, I have learned to change my storyline and to stop questioning myself.  We are all given different gifts, so rewrite your story to highlight what makes you perfectly you.

Use your power. Stop second guessing yourself. Own the uniqueness that is you.

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Perfectly You

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Happy Spring!  As I say goodbye my first winter in New England, I have been thinking about the person I was before I came to Boston, the person I am becoming, and who I want to be.  Like a butterfly, I have learned to spread my wings, mature and do things a little bit differently this time around.  Despite challenges of the past and old pains, this time I feel I am a little bit stronger and more equipped to face the challenges of the future.

As a perfectionist, it can be daunting to reflect on the person you once were.  In the past, I have tried to be everything to everyone, yet I wasn’t always true to myself.  I have been plagued with anxiety, fearful that my peers, coworkers, or even perfect strangers would judge me.  I have acted out due to fear and pushed good things away because I was scared of losing them.  I used to constantly question whether I was good enough, funny enough, smart enough, or pretty enough- the list goes on.

What a waste of time.

Since moving here I have had the opportunity to start fresh and work on becoming the best person I can be.  In the midst of self-discovery, endless self-help books and hours spent watching inspirational talks, I’m still stuck in the same place: my head.

Then, right when I needed it the most, someone special came into my life who has helped me put everything in perspective.  She has helped me realize that I am not the only person who thinks too much, that I am not out of the ordinary, that I do have a lot to offer and that I am simply too hard on myself.  While nobody is perfect, she said something to me that I need to remember:

“You’re Perfectly You.”

“That is all.  Nobody is perfect, but you’re perfectly you.  Whatever happens today does not define how tomorrow will go.  Each day is its own entity.” 

She has helped me realize that every day I have the choice to grow and try to be the best person I can be.  The good news is, I don’t have to be perfect or have all of the answers today.  Even if I am feeling sad, frustrated or spiritually disconnected, I can learn from those experiences and try and improve my tomorrow.

Today, I can be content with just being “Perfectly Me.”

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Enjoying the Journey

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The older I get, the more I enjoy simplicity.  My desire to have more, do more and be more has come and gone; today I am finally in a place where I can just enjoy being.

Instead of looking at “what’s next,” I have begun to truly focus on where I am at; for paying attention is when you begin to notice the magic.

Today, I enjoy being present.

I spoke with a friend the other day about happiness, love and fulfillment.  He shared his insight on what love really means:

“The reality is, we are programmed by society to gain happiness through success, work and love.  For me, love doesn’t have to mean a person. Love is that overwhelming feeling of joy.  Waking up excited that you have the whole day ahead for you to conquer.

Here’s the thing: anyone who hasn’t failed, hasn’t cried, hasn’t questioned the meaning of everything, ultimately hasn’t lived. Look at where you’ve lived, what you’ve done, who you’ve met and who you’ve made laugh or smile. Your accomplishments are incredible. Have there been times where it’s failed? Of course, but that is part of living.”

His kind words meant the world to me, but also made me reflect.  Over the past few years I have learned to accept my failures and realized that they were part of the journey that helped shape me into the person I am today.  Had I not experienced the cross-country moves, career changes, relationships, successes and failures, I would not appreciate where I stand today- for today, I can stand still.

Here’s to the journey- to waking up with enthusiasm, a hunger for learning and a thirst for life.

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