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Refuel the Soul: Weekend Self-Care

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Happy Friday! Another week has come to an end, so it’s time to rejuvenate and relax. Self-care is crucial to our everyday health and happiness, but many of us push it to the side as we maneuver through our busy schedules.

It’s important to spend time to reflect on how your week was, consciously recognize how you’re feeling and what you need to do to have a productive week ahead.

Alone Time

Each weekend I put aside time to myself to do the things I enjoy and make me feel good about me. Whether it’s yoga, writing, going for a long walk, enjoying a homemade breakfast or sipping coffee with a good book, my alone time is imperative to my self-care and overall mood.

Instead of feeling like I have to be “on the go” all of the time, I balance my time between self-care and social interactions. It makes me appreciate my friends and family much more when I have a balance; I can easily get burned out if I don’t take some time to myself (typical introvert, of course).

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Gratitude Journal

You can’t be unhappy and grateful at the same time! Documenting my daily gratitudes have helped me immensely when I’m stuck in my own head or feeling down. Start a special journal and write down a few things each day that you’re grateful for. It’s wonderful to look back on them when you’re in a funk, too! It’s also a great way to get into journaling (which has been proven to increase happiness and improve health).

Exercise

Whether it’s the gym, a sport or taking a class, get out there and exercise! The weekend is a perfect time to burn off energy from your busy schedule and prepare for the week ahead. Although I’m not a fan of the gym, I walk at least five miles a day, take the stairs instead of the escalator or elevator, attend yoga class and love outdoor activities. Find what works for you!

Art Therapy

Drawing, painting, crafts and coloring can be very therapeutic and are wonderful activities for mindfulness. I like to keep a coloring book and pencils with me for when I’m stressed, killing time or commuting. It’s amazing how a little creativity can elevate your mood! Inspirational coloring pages are my favorite- here are a few of my favorites for you to print.

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Eat Well

Thinking about picking up a pizza and living off leftovers for the next day? That’s fun every now and then, but try to be more conscious of what you put in your body when you have that extra time to prepare your meals and think about what you’re consuming. Saturday morning is my favorite time to grocery shop- I used to buy my produce that day and prepare juices for the weekend and pack lunch for the days ahead. Take this time to learn a new recipe, too! I am a big fan of Jessica Seinfeld’s recipes (yes, she is married to Jerry); they’re perfect for the person who claims they can’t cook or are nervous to try.

Don’t Be Afraid to Say “No.” 

Feeling burned out? Listen to your body! Just because you have the spare time doesn’t mean you need to fill every second. Don’t fall victim to FOMO! Enjoy the peace and quiet, take care of the things you need to do and remember to take care of you!

Check out these other self-care practices thanks to Tiny Buddah.

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Seven Steps to Being More Mindful at Work

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The practice of mindfulness is not only beneficial to mental and physical health, but also increases productivity thanks to improved concentration and energy. Since making meditation and mindfulness habits in my everyday life, I have enjoyed coming into work each day, use my time more efficiently and have been able to work better.

Being mindful improves focus and awareness, so following these tips can result in being much more creative and effective in the workplace.

1. Be Present

Focusing on one assignment or project at a time is crucial to being mindful in the workplace. When your attention shifts from one distraction to another, it’s important to remember to go back to where you left off and become present in the task at hand.

2. Make Lists

Start your day with a list of “to-dos” to accomplish. Working on one project at a time will help you increase productivity and stay organized. Re-prioritize your list throughout the day if necessary.

3. Mindful Reminders

Write cheerleading statements on post-it note and stick them on your desk. These simple reminders will motivate you and help to stay in the moment. Don’t know how to get started? Begin with simple statements such as “This is only temporary” or “I can do it!”

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4. Take a Breather

Step away from the desk and enjoy a walk around the neighborhood or short break to re-group. Give yourself time and space to re-energize throughout your day to improve concentration and overall productivity. I always take a few minutes during lunch to grab a coffee, walk down to the harbor or take photos of downtown Boston. Enjoy the beauty around you!

5. Radical Acceptance

This is one of my favorite DBT skills.  Radical acceptance doesn’t mean you have to like everyone or each situation, but it does mean you must accept things for how they are. While you don’t have to agree with someone, it’s important to validate them by acknowledging their thoughts or opinions.

6. Gratitude

Interrupt anxiety with gratitude! It’s so easy to fall into a negative mindset when something doesn’t go your way. Instead of focusing on your triggers, shift your focus to your blessings. Remember: you’re working, you’re fulfilling a purpose, and you’re needed. Try and focus on the positives and have gratitude for your position, opportunity, coworkers or work output.

7. Mindfulness Exercises

There are a variety of mindfulness exercises you can do at your desk to keep yourself balanced throughout your day. The Harvard Business Review gives tips and a guided breathing exercise to keep you present. According to HBR, “Mindfulness helps increase effectiveness, decrease mistakes, and even enhances creativity.”

Learn more about mindfulness at work at Mindful.org.

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Enjoying my lunchtime stroll!
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Living on a Minimalist’s Budget

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Every January I tell myself, “this is the year I will stick to a budget.” While my intentions are good, my track record has been less than superb.

To illustrate, I looked at my calendar and realized that 2017 marks ten years since I graduated college. Ten years. Boy, do I wish someone would have taught me then what I know now.

In an effort to live as minimally and stress free as possible, I have begun focusing on quality over quantity, purging what I don’t need and only buying things when I need them, yet I still have failed sticking to a budget.

My Expenses

Since I have minimal bills, there is little to no reason I should go over my budget every month. First, I listed all of the expenses I know I will have and came up with a rough estimate.

  • Rent
  • Food
  • Cell phone
  • CharlieCard (train / bus)
  • Student loan

That’s right- no car payment, no credit cards, no mortgage or gas costs. Yes, this is called city life for a single woman who has little to no attachment to things. Sometimes I wonder what my life would look like today had I settled in one place, lived minimally and invested in things like a home, but the good news is that I still have time. Although I may have spent my money a bit carelessly, I’m beginning to make an effort to spend less, save more and avoid excess clutter in my life.

Need vs. Want

I could definitely use a new Henri Bendel bag for my laptop. However, this purchase can wait considering I don’t even carry my laptop to work. In fact, it barely leaves the house these days. My point is, there are many things I can trick myself into “needing,” but then I ask myself:

1) Could I get this for less?

2) Do I need this immediately?

3) Do I need this at all?

Usually my purchase can wait (also giving me time to think it over), or I can find an alternative if there’s something I can’t wait to buy- for example, buying a drugstore brand instead of splurging at Sephora. I also trick myself into thinking I have more money than I do, so a $20 lipstick doesn’t seem like a big deal at the time- but it adds up quick.

Trading Things for Freedom

I like to think of my purchases this way: “would I rather have this item or the freedom to do what I want?” Time is money, and it takes time to work for a paycheck, so I’ve been much more conscious of each dollar I spend. Sure, marketers do an amazing job fooling me into thinking my life will ultimately be better with their products, but on those days I’m waiting for my paycheck I think, “I wish I wouldn’t have gotten takeout so many times last week.” Living paycheck to paycheck is never fun, so it’s rewarding to finally have the freedom to be able to do what you want when you’re more mindful of your budget.

More Experiences

Instead of relying on money to have fun, I’ve gotten creative. One of my favorite things to do is explore the city… I love to look at architecture, go out in nature, find free days at museums, take photos and window shop. Practicing mindfulness, enjoying each moment and taking in your surroundings is far more gratifying than having a bunch of “stuff” to sort through.

I’m a firm believer that everyone needs to live in moderation; it’s important to keep a balance and not to go too extreme with your saving or spending- after all, no matter how tight the budget, I’ll never give up my coffee.

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A minimalistic holiday

December is the month I was brought into this world, so it’s no surprise that it’s my favorite time of the year. I love the crisp winter air, the sparkling lights, making holiday cookies, decking the halls and celebrating my birthday.

It’s rare that I’m able to travel home to Michigan every holiday, so I’ve kept the Christmas season relatively low-key over the past few years. One year I ate at a Chinese restaurant on the Upper West Side (as a good UWSer would) of Manhattan, and on another I indulged in a traditional Italian dinner (AKA party) on Coit Hill in San Francisco. While my holidays are as untraditional as I am, I do manage to stay in the Christmas spirit by putting my own style on home decor.

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I have a baby plant which suffices as my Christmas tree since I’m in Airbnbs for the holiday. I was also gifted a beautiful (and unique!) poinsettia, which is one of my favorite plants.

I love simplifying things, decluttering and living in a zen place; I’ve certainly began to appreciate quality over quantity. Although next holiday I plan to be more settled and decorate a real tree, this year I’m enjoying hot chocolate in my cozy Medford place with my  little Charlie Brown tree.

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Packing Light

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2016 began in a small apartment outside of Manhattan in Astoria, Queens. Although I had a large room, it came without one important thing- a closet. I improvised and managed to find a standing wardrobe that successfully stored everything I immediately needed- or so I thought.

Initially it was fun having everything I owned in sight; kind of like a store! Each morning I got to shop my own closet! The fun, however, wore off when that dreaded day came.

Moving day.

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Dresses and skirts and shoes, oh my. This doesn’t even appropriately depict the unmanageably of my “stuff;” the other half of my wardrobe was hidden in a hall closet and under the bed.

I moved to a smaller, more expensive apartment in June… I purged, I donated, I left behind. At that point I had packed everything I owned and headed down the street (three trips in an SUV, to be exact) to a space conveniently located two blocks from the NQ line. Proximity to the subway is crucial when living in NYC; however,”space” took a backseat in my priorities and I was hit hard with reality once my move was complete.

My stuff didn’t fit.

Life really does throw you curveballs. Just when I managed to find a place for everything and was finally feeling settled, I received some bad news. July wasn’t even half way over and I found out I lost my marketing gig on Fifth Avenue… just a couple of days before I was told I needed to find a new apartment.

Back to the drawing board.  

So, what does a girl do after riding a New York rollercoaster for over two years? One might tell her to “pick yourself up and keep going!” My wise mind told me to leave… that there had to be something better, more fitting for me just around the corner.

Unfortunately, leaving meant packing. Packing everything I had collected, everything I brought with me, everything my family sent me from home. Sigh.

So, here’s what I did.

  • I carried three pieces of luggage home to Michigan with me- only with the summer clothes and things I would immediately need.
  • I shipped several- and I mean SEVERAL- boxes home to my mom’s house. I’d worry about those later.
  • About those boxes… each had a method behind the madness. Winter coats in one, miscellaneous shoes I never wear in another, work clothes, random clothes, house crap… but mainly clothes.
  • I gave a lot of things away. I had purses that were great, kitchenware I had never used, and bulky things I just couldn’t take with me. I left my brand new leather chair with my roommate as a token of appreciation for dealing with me. More on that later.
  • I threw a lot of things away. Towels, sheets, socks, toiletries. Goodbye.
  • Someone on the sidewalk must have had fun, too- I left a variety of odds and ends, storage compartments, books and jewelry organizers on the curb. Come and get it.

I did a lot of organizing and additional purging when I returned to Michigan, and did even more of it this past month before heading to Boston.

Once again, I got on a flight with three pieces of luggage. I had searched high and low for a temporary apartment outside the city, and in the end found a cute Airbnb while I interviewed for jobs.

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An organized, manageable amount of clothes.

For the time being I’m content in my temporary Medford home. It’s organized, cozy, and has space for everything I need- not everything I own. In a week I’ll have a better idea of where I want to live and what my rent budget is, but I’ll tell you one thing:

Even if I had all the space in the world, I wouldn’t want to fill it.

There is something serene about knowing exactly what you own, where it is and how it fits in your life. My old habits of being a packrat have diminished with each move, and now I value organization, piece of mind and decluttering more than the American dream of consumerism and “stuff.” Ugh, stuff.

This is what brings me to the “mindful” theme of my blog- in being present and content with where you are in life, what you have and what you want, you can also live minimally, stylishly, happy and content. These things are on your terms- no one else’s. I came to a crossroads where I had to decide what I valued- it wasn’t “keeping up with the Joneses” or buying the latest pair of heels- it’s about quality over quantity. Quality in people, places and things- not living a life of excess.

Although I have made some mistakes along the way, I’ve gotten the chance to learn about myself, declutter my room, and ultimately, declutter my life.

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While I used to own dozens of purses, now I only keep what I use- and love.