Before I learned about Human Design, I had no idea my inner guide, or intuition, had an official name, leading my every move throughout my life. Those times when I followed the crowd, listened to negative feedback, or allowed naysayers to sway my decisions were the times I ignored my inner authority: my Sacral Center.
Friends and family have often thought my decisions were irrational; crazy, even. However, my moves to San Francisco, Boston, and even home to Michigan were based on feelings in my gut that I couldn’t ignore.
People often write to me and ask how I knew when it was right for me to make that next move or to quit a job that wasn’t a good fit. Lately, I’ve told them my own experiences- but also about how it relates to my Human Design. We all have an inner authority- one that won’t lead us in the wrong direction.
During this pandemic and uncertainty, our society has been forced to slow down. It’s not comfortable for many, but it’s a gift in disguise- one we may not receive again.
It’s the gift of pause and reflection.
Not only do I recommend taking this time for self-discovery, it’s also a perfect opportunity to re-assess the life you’ve been living.
How many of your decisions were impacted by society’s expectations? What choices did you make because of what other people said? If you could stop and do something over, what would you go back and accomplish?
With idle time, we can see our lives more clearly. What is your gut telling you? If you have a blank slate in front of you, what direction do you want to go in?
When you stop and listen to your gut- or whatever your inner authority may be- it’s amazing what doors begin to open for you.
The best memories I have of my years in New York City weren’t the clothes I wore or the food I ate. It wasn’t the guys I dated or the celebrities I met. As much as I loved the entertainment and the opportunities, I also embraced the solitude; the anonymity combined with the feeling of never being alone.
The best memories were the moments I learned, grew, and connected- and shared stories with others who felt just as lost, broken, yet hopeful as I did.
Without the show, New York City is full of soul.
The show will eventually go on, but with a different tone. After this time of reflection, uncertainty, loss, and fear, there will also be growth. There will be realizations.
Humanity will come together again, and hopefully, we notice those bright lights and glittery scenes in a new, healthier way.
While I went through my own personal crisis in my late 20’s and early 30’s I learned a lot of things.
Needless to say, I have my own perspective on the state of the world and its reaction to the Coronavirus.
I almost died more times than I can count. I went to the hospital with a BAC a of .6 and was told later I shouldn’t have lived. I’ve been taken out of work functions (plural) in an ambulance.
Yes, I did this all to myself, but it was a byproduct of unresolved trauma and pain. So, I started to work on it. It wasn’t pretty, and new issues pop up all the time. Today I can handle those issues productively.
I understand there is a universe all order to life. I understand I had a reason to live. So I kept writing, and I kept growing.
Now that we’re in the midst of a global crisis, I can use these lessons and help others. It might not be much, and I may not be able to solve anyone’s health or financial problems, but if I can shed just a little bit of light, then you may understand why I’m so passionate about writing my not-so-pretty experiences.
I’m sure a lot of people won’t agree with my perspective, and that’s okay. Since I already stay home the majority of the time I’m not working (and the other is spent by myself or with a friend outside), I intend to spend this time completing my v-steam course, finishing my book, and reaching out to literary agents.
Right now is a huge opportunity for a collective shift.
Although much of the world is in panic, I see the Coronavirus as a chance for us to grow, evolve, and come together.
This isn’t a time to worry, turn against each other, lash out, or isolate. Consuming negative media, turning to bad habits, or regressing in your personal progress isn’t a solution during this uncertain time.
I’ve been doing what I can to connect with others (in a safe, virus-free way!) for the past four years now through writing on my blog and other websites. Since a lot of what I do is online, I’m a bit frightened by how uncomfortable American society is with idle time. Sitting still and learning to embrace the moment is such a gift!
Coronavirus will result in more creation and less consumption, I hope.
The only thing you can control is yourself, the light you shine, and the energy you put out into the world. As we reflect and retreat, think about how you can spread your light in your daily life.
Whether it’s an uplifting post or helping someone in need, these little things add up collectively.
Traverse City may be a ghost town, but it’s no different than the rest of the world right now.
I’m so fortunate to live in such a beautiful place, full of inspiration and serenity, especially during this time. There’s no need for entertainment when you have the peace inside yourself and the beauty all around you.
My heart goes out to everyone who is out of work or experiencing loss due to this pandemic. Please continue to take care of yourself, because there will be brighter days ahead.
Continue to create, inspire, learn, and grow. We can all take this time as the collective to look within and determine how we want to move forward with our lives. 🌿
Daylight savings falls on the Super Full Moon in Virgo this year, and I got to enjoy the last night of “winter sunsets” on Lake Michigan in Leland last night. 😍 The sun set like fire along the shoreline, bringing me back to the days of growing up along this very water.
2020 has been a time of healing and self care, and it’s finally time to start emerging from our winter bubble and to shine a light on things that have felt foggy or unclear during the cooler season. Representing the virgin, this Virgo Full Moon will help you heal old childhood wounds and recharge your batteries for this next phase. The feminine energy of this moon will act as a warm hug while letting go of past pains, amplifying your confidence and divine feminine- so embrace it!
Lately I’ve had people re-enter my life, places remind me of my teenage years, and old friends take me back to the times when I was wide-eyed and innocent. Looking back on my younger days, I have a newfound compassion for myself, where my path has taken me, and the trial and error I’ve lived out through my decades of adventures. After learning about my 4/6 Profile in Human Design, it’s become clear I was meant to go on a journey of self-discovery, and this seems like an appropriate ending to that stage.
According to Forever Conscious, the collective is about to enter a new phase, as well:
March’s Full Moon is also preparing us for the start of the astrological year which begins on the Equinox later this month.
It is time for us to enter a new cycle, but before we can step onto this new path that is opening for us, we have to bring acceptance to where we stand today.
We have to radically accept our past, our pains, our grief, our mistakes, our triumphs, our family, our story, so we can move forward.
As we let go of the pain we’ve held onto, but perhaps buried under the surface, we can make space for what’s to come. Being conscious of what held us back from living authentically, loving others, or speaking our truth is an important part of our journey, so revisiting the life we once lived can be extremely healing during this full moon. Whether it’s visiting the nearby beach, meditating outside, or calling up an old friend, be sure to honor your inner child.
If you’re looking to harness the Super Full Moon energy, leave your crystals by the window to energize in the moonlight, sage your home, and spend time outside. The Full Moon is a time of amplified energy, so take some notes with your intentions, because this powerful moon is ideal for manifestation!
It’s hard to believe I just learned about Human Design a few short weeks ago.
On an ordinary day, a friend (who happens to be my birthday twin) texted me about her recent obsession with her Human Design chart. What was she talking about? I quickly Googled, only to discover a whole new world- the world of Human Design.
Using figures such as birth date, time, and city, each person in this world has a unique blueprint of their design- a design composed of energy centers (which are defined or undefined), gates, and channels. Every person also has a type, an inner authority, definition, and a profile.
I used MyBodyGraph for my chart, which saves all your information when you create an account, but I also like using Jovian Archive and Health Manifested, too. Each property of my Human Design chart took some time to look up- from learning what my open Head and Anja centers mean to discovering how to respond as a Manifesting Generator- but it’s a fun study I could spend days reading up on.
One of the most fascinating parts of my chart was learning my “Profile,” which is comprised of two number lines, each giving important composites that describe someone’s qualities. My Profile is a 4/6, the “Opportunist Role Model,” which is known for its three stages of life-
Stage 1 happens from birth to roughly age 30 (around the Saturn Return). During this time, there are strong 3rd line vibes of discovery-based learning and bonds made and broken.
Stage 2 roughly begins after the Saturn Return is over and lasts until the Chiron Return, approximately ages 30-50. During this time, there’s the opportunity to retreat and heal, and to reflect in order to gain a bit of perspective around all that happened during the first 30-ish years.
Stage 3 begins after the Chiron Return and lasts as long as we do. During this point in time, the 6th line has turned experience into wisdom via their reflection and is now ready to reengage with life armed with lessons learned via lived experience.
Here’s how this three-stage process looks for the 4/6:
The 6th line’s goal during stage 1 is to gather and collect experiences via trial and error. During this time, the 4th line craves stability and a solid foundation, so typically the things the 6th line is willing to try is in pursuit of this stability. This stage is all about lessons learned, so not every attempt at stability will be successful…but that’s just part of the discovery process.
The 6th line’s goal during stage 2 is to provide time for reflection and healing, and allow for the perspective that comes with distance. This is when the 4th line finally gets the stability it craves, as career, friends and family start to be called in.
The 6th line’s goal during stage 3 is completing the final step where experience through reflection becomes wisdom, and that wisdom can now be applied in a far more frequently successful way. Over the course of your life, as you gain more experience and hold space to reflect on that experience to acquire valuable perspective, 4/6s are able to get the head and the heart on the same page far more easily and more often.
This is especially pertinent to me as a former city-hopper, career-changer, and serial dater. Until moving home to Michigan in October, I was consistently out of alignment with what was in my heart- but that wasn’t a flaw. It was because I was in my first phase of life- the trial and error phase. When I started Mindful in Style back in 2016, I was beginning to gather the lessons I had learned over the years and started to write about the new ones as I experienced them- which is written all over my chart (no pun intended).
Based on my design, I was never meant to stay at one job, settle down after college, or find my partner in my 20’s. I was meant to move around, learn lessons, make mistakes, and discover important truths based on my experiences- not textbooks or from living out societal norms.
My inner authority, Sacral, is that ping in my stomach which tells me “uh huh” or “uh uh” when making decisions- and throughout my entire life, I’ve followed it. When my gut told me to call of my wedding, I did it. When I made the choice to move to New York, I went for it. When leaving a job seemed like the right thing to do, I didn’t hesitate.
My decisions have never been based on logic or facts, but that inner voice advising me which direction to go. While some people may not understand this, other empaths and those with sacral authority think it makes perfect sense. My open head and anja centers deliver information to me, while my defined spleen guides me through my intuition.
I have always known I would be okay, too- no matter what other people have told me. It’s that inner authority telling me so.
Based on my design, I was always meant to spread my wings and fly, only to return to the nest to heal and retreat (which is the beginning of my second stage), write about what I’ve learned, and continue to follow the path as my life manifests.
I don’t know what my tomorrows will bring, but thanks to my Human Design chart, I know I’m following the authentic path designed for me- a path only I need to understand, too.