I’m a person who once desperately needed to incorporate mindfulness into her life.
It’s strange to look back on how I used to act, react, and think before I learned to sit still, breathe, and relax. I learned the value in mediation, and the biggest value wasn’t the sitting meditation itself- it was the way I reacted to the world around me afterward.
Meditation is a practice, and not something that can be perfected overnight.
I hear a lot of people new to mindfulness and meditation tell me they can’t do it, or that they can’t shut off their brain.
Hint: this is why you do it! This is why you practice!
We are the ones who complicate our lives. We are the ones who try and predict tomorrow. The present moment is all we have, and without mindfulness, we’re letting it slip out of our hands.
There are always things we don’t want to do in day to day life, from sitting in a meeting at work to being stuck on a crowded train. Mindfulness makes these mundane or uncomfortable situations more bearable. Why? It’s because due to your practice, you’re learning to be comfortable sitting still within yourself!
Several years ago I used to be go-go-go- manic, even. I didn’t understand the point of sitting still, and thought I was missing out on something if I wasn’t moving. All of these thoughts were wrong; even when I was sitting and relaxed, I couldn’t fully enjoy the moment because I was constantly thinking about the past or the future.
I used to use other things to distract myself or calm down my brain, such as drinking, but today I can close my eyes, listen to the birds, and soak in the sun while embracing the now. I don’t have to make up fantasies or disasters in my mind to fill the blank spaces.