According to Jean-Jacques Rousseau, authenticity is derived from the natural self, while inauthenticity is a result of external influences. You know- the ego, societal expectations, and materialism.
So, what is your natural self?
When you stop holding onto the fear of what others think of you, the magic starts to happen:
When you live your life authentically, things start to fall into place. The right people and opportunities effortlessly find their way to you. The weight of the world seems to fall away.
For years I tried to water down the person I was due to fear of what people had to say about me. I would tone down my message, hold back my truth, or justify simple things simply because of what others may think.
Often times, I had no real evidence of what they were actually thinking.
As I began to accept the person I am, I stopped considering the opinions of others. Sure, it is important for me to be kind and considerate, but I also know when I need to set personal boundaries. I stopped trying to fit in and embraced what fits for me.
I wrote this back in 2017, when I began my journey of giving less F’s about everything else and caring more about me:
When you’re in alignment with the person you are meant to be, you won’t fit in like you did before. You will see the world much clearer, more serene, and with a sense of purpose. The noise from the outside world will no longer affect you so much and you will begin to find ways to improve the world around you, not complain about it. As you continue to discover your true self, remember that the positives far outweigh the negatives. Although it can be uncomfortable at first, keep doing you- you’ll thank yourself later.
If you’ve spent years trying to please everyone around you, here’s the sign you need to break the habit and start remembering the most important person of all: yourself.