As I walked through the Harvard Coop the other day, I passed the self-help section for inspiration. Per usual, something stuck out:
Just when I needed it, this book struck me (and now I’m #1 on the waiting list to check it out at the library… more thoughts on it to follow!).
Over the past few months I have been working on setting healthy boundaries, staying in my own lane, and speaking my mind without cowering down. Not only have I been attracting people who have been in alignment with my values, people at a lower vibration haven’t been approaching me as often. Some people in my life have even thanked me for my honesty; I’ve shared things they may not have said themselves and have helped to inspire them to be a little bit more transparent.
Although I’ve never thought of it this way, it’s a courageous act to put an end to relentless people pleasing. As Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “What other people think of me is none of my business. One of the highest places you can get to is being independent of the good opinions of other people.”
If I were to walk into a room with 10 people, there would be 10 different opinions of me. Do I need to take each one to heart? Do I need to conform to please each and every one of these people?
Of course not- that would be silly.
One of the biggest freedoms I have found is being happy within my own skin, independent of what the outside world has to say. One of my biggest joys is to connect with other people on a deeper, meaningful level, but it’s not possible to please everyone.
First, you must be comfortable within your own truth.