Your Inside Job

It’s amazing how so many people I talk with tell me that they want a more fulfilling life, but they don’t know what kind of work it takes to get there. They may have gotten a raise or a new gym membership, but it’s rare for me to hear someone tell me that they’re working on the inside.

It’s hard; I know. Looking inward is not a simple journey, but most fail to recognize that the external factors in their life won’t heal what’s underneath. They may cover up inner wounds or self doubt temporarily, but the core issues always rise to the surface.

I recently chatted with someone I knew while living in New York City. His life looks quite posh; a corporate job, an Upper East Side apartment, and a sailboat docked in Connecticut. He asked how I’ve been enjoying Boston, and I told him it’s been great. Instead of validating my life with what kind of work I’m doing or whether or not I’ve been dating, I responded with this:

“The past year has been about the journey inward.”

The response I got back was surprising, but not completely unexpected. He told me he wasn’t sure if he ever journeyed inward.

Then I wondered: how many people actually do?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about purpose, and what I can do to help others discover who they really are. Life isn’t about achieving status, fancy things, and a big house- it’s aligning with your soul mission and purpose for being. Ego takes away from what our soul truly desires, whether it really is that corporate job and a sailboat or a farm in the middle of the country.

Who is anyone else to tell us what we want out of our own lives?

One of the things I’ve been doing these past two years is daily journaling. It can be as simple as writing down little things I’m grateful for to how I’m feeling on that particular day. As I look back on my earlier entries, I begin to see patterns- patterns that help to show me what really matters.

One of my goals is to create a journal for others to use- something simple to help them ground themselves, see their talents, and help them live out a life of purpose. I’ve been putting this off for months, but I have to ask myself- what am I waiting for?

As I use the tools that have helped me find my own inner peace, I continually think about how sharing what I’ve learned can help others. As an advocate for self love and empowerment, I’m eager to work with others to help them achieve a new happiness and freedom as well.

We all have a destiny, but it takes work on the inside to fulfill it.

About Kristin Fehrman

My name is Kristin Fehrman and I am a writer in Boston. I started my blog, Mindful in Style, to share my story with the hope of inspiring others to follow their dreams, discover their purpose, pursue their passions, and use their voice. This is my own story of living beautifully.
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