We all want to feel good, right? Sometimes it’s easy to forget that a positive mindset is ongoing work; we’ll never discover a “magic cure” or a key to happiness.
However, here is the real secret:
Happiness comes from within.
So, how do we create happiness within ourselves? It takes a lot of work, re-framing our thoughts, and building a solid foundation. Whether it’s a spiritual practice or health routine, finding a way to empower ourselves is key to long-lasting fulfillment.
Let’s think about instant gratification for a minute. As a woman who used to go out and spend $400 on a handbag, spend money mindlessly at a bar, or go on dates to feel better when in an uncomfortable state, it always left me empty inside. I always regretted my decisions, whether it was due to something I said while drinking, being late on a bill, or never hearing from the guy again (and yes, sometimes all three were correlated!).
It’s not a very good feeling when you’re seeking validation from the outside. Those handbags in my closet picked up dust, my mental health suffered from drinking, and I didn’t know how to function without validation from outside sources.
I had to stop, reset, and learn new tools to cope with being uncomfortable.
So, in October 2016, I took a month to do just that. At the time, I had left New York City, attempted a life in Chicago, and had yet to decide to move to Boston. With no assets to my name or home to call my own- not even a city to claim as mine- I had a completely blank slate.
I had no idea what to do; all I had was faith.
It took a few twists and turns to learn what I wanted out of life, but I worked with amazing coaches, leaders, and people in my support circle to help me see the good in myself when I couldn’t recognize it on my own.
Now, with a solid foundation, I am not only able to pass on what I have learned to others, but I no longer seek outside validation. I am confident in the woman I have become. Sure, I still like a nice handbag, but I learned the value in quality over quantity- in all areas of my life.
I hope I have been able to help you live beautifully through my writing this past year and a half, for this blog is a journey from the very first week I moved to Boston. I am always here to talk, so please feel free to reach out if you’re going through a rough patch, are seeking guidance, or need a listening ear.
Remember: life is a marathon, not a race!