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conscious living self discovery

Growth: How Intuition and Awakening Cause Big Changes

It’s hard to explain why my life has changed so much so many different times these past 10 years. Part of it has to do with being a free spirited young adult, yet today it finally clicked.

As I have changed, and as my spiritual awakening has been happening, the things around me have changed right along with it.

I happen to be a highly intuitive and clairvoyant person, so my gut always tells me or sabotages a situation I know isn’t right. As my consciousness grows and as I stop mixing the messages from society and the outside world, I catch myself. I question big life factors. And, abruptly, I make a change. Although most people don’t understand this or may call my changes erratic, to me they make perfect sense in the end.

From changes such as calling off a wedding and moving to San Francisco from my home state (I had never lived anywhere else at that point) to quitting jobs or moving apartments, change is no stranger to me.

With each change, I move closer to my purpose.

With each fall, I emerge even stronger.

I learn, I feel, and I grow. I listen to my heart center today and do the best I can without letting the outside world sway me any longer.

For years, I listened too much to others- not from the divine guidance from source, which manifests in my life as intuition and synchronicities.

I’m happy to finally realize this for myself, but it sure has been difficult to explain to others- but I know I don’t have to today.

and, when you listen to your intuition, sometimes even a little magic happens.

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mindfulness self discovery

Let’s Write Our Own Life Stories

It’s amazing how many inspiring people I’ve had the opportunity to connect with through my writing. Just the other morning I woke up to an email from a lovely girl named Celine.

She had discovered a piece of mine on Thought Catalog that resonated with her own powerful message:

“When did we start to receive raised eyebrows and concerned looks when talking about our hopes and dreams?

How odd is it to live life as we are supposed to? Like, how weird?

All we get is one life to live. Every day we experience is unique and will never come again. Ever. Time goes in only one direction and it starts running out the second we are born. And yet we spend hours and days and years and maybe even a lifetime trying to live up on other’s expectations.”

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I read her email. It was as if I had met a soul sister- and I did! 💞

After watching her video, I sent her an email to let her know how amazing it was how she is spreading this message at such a young age- although I’ve always lived the life I loved, in the back of my mind I still questioned myself.

Despite following my dreams, I allowed society to make me feel inferior or “weird” compared to those who followed a conventional path.

Here’s a little breakdown of my life, post-college:

  • When I was 21, I thought I needed to get a corporate job to be considered successful.
  • When I was 22, I got engaged.
  • When I was 23, I called it off and moved to San Francisco.
  • When I was 25, I thought I needed a relationship that was on the road to marriage.
  • When I was 27, I created a fashion blog to validate myself to others.
  • When I was 29, I moved to New York City and thought I needed to work in fashion and make a lot of money to “be someone.”
  • When I was 31, none of the above “worked” for me and I finally stopped concerning myself with outside forces, moved to Boston, and became honest with both myself and others.

I started Mindful in Style on December 7th, 2016, and it’s been an amazing journey ever since. I learned vulnerability is a gift, and being different is one of the biggest blessings that I never even asked for.

Life is all about following what is in your heart, listening to your intuition, and enjoying the journey.

It’s not about what others think, what you “should” do, or where you’re at in the timeline of life.

There IS no timeline.

Celine has been a wonderful inspiration to both myself and thousands of others on YouTube. I’m grateful there are many other young women who know that outside validation won’t determine your worth or value to the world.

Your value comes from within.

Thank you, Celine, for reaching out to me. You have been a shining light in my life this past week! 💫

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conscious living self discovery

Focus on What You DO Want

Over the past couple of years I have carefully thought about my priorities, goals, and values. While I’ve cleared away the things that no longer serve me, I’ve made one major mistake without even realizing it:

I’ve thought too much about the things I don’t want.

Instead of simply visualizing the things I do want, I’ve equally focused on what I don’t want my life to look like.

Examples:

  • I don’t want a conventional life
  • I’m not looking for a relationship
  • I don’t want to have children
  • I don’t want to work a “business job”
  • I don’t want my life to revolve around money

Although these things are good for self awareness, I have focused on how I don’t want my life to look instead of how I do.

It’s important to be honest with ourselves- but once we do, we can let those thoughts go.

Instead, I can think:

  • I want to live a life of inner freedom
  • I am open to a relationship when the time is right
  • I will be happy living a life independently while empowering and inspiring others
  • I will focus on my creative endeavors
  • I am grateful for all that I have

Although these messages are essentially the same, it’s opening my life to abundance, not the “don’t wants.” The Universe gets confused when we say “don’t.” Instead, it’s picking up our keywords. The universe is hearing “corporate,” “relationship,” and “conventional,” not the “don’t” part- just like Google would if we were to do an online search.

As you think, speak, and write, remember this little lesson. You’ll be surprised how many times a day you’re sending mixed signals that are blocking what you do want- so be mindful of those thoughts.

I promise, you will see a difference. 💞

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mental health mindfulness

“We Don’t Have to Agree On Anything to Be Kind to One Another”

Right when I needed it, I received the perfect comment on a post from earlier today.  A dear friend- the friend who was right there for me every step of the way during my dark period in October 2016 (right before I came to Boston)- said:

“Ask yourself, ‘what would love do?’ Then do that.”

Ah, yes.  Another perfect message at the perfect time.

This reminds me of “turning the other cheek.”  Having compassion- even when others have hurt or wronged you- is one of the first steps to true freedom.  Sure, sometimes it feels good to hold onto bitterness, anger, or resentment- but who is that really hurting?

When you can act with love, your entire life turns around.  I’m not saying the other party will reciprocate the same kindness, but that doesn’t matter.  This is about setting you free.

However, I am confident that person will remember your kindness.

And maybe, just maybe, they will even follow your example one day. 💞

for maddie 💞

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mindfulness self discovery

Gossip: It’s Low Vibe Energy

It’s so easy to take things personally, isn’t it?

It has taken me years- and I mean years- to realize that gossip isn’t about me at all; cruel words, secret giggles, and lies are reflections of those speaking them.

A wise person once said “when you point the finger, there’s three pointing back at yourself.”  Although I’ve been fortunate to surround myself with high vibe people, it’s not to say I didn’t spend a large portion of my life not knowing the difference between people with good and bad intentions.

I used to listen to the mean words and think it was my fault.  I listened to everything on the outside and ignored the true feelings in my heart.  These days, I finally know better.

Gossip is nothing but low vibe energy to keep other people down and drag others to their level.

You have the chance to rise above it! 

Trust me, it takes practice, but tuning out those negative messages is completely possible- and once you do, life is so much more peaceful.

Keep doing you. The right people will come your way.