Can’t Have Your Cake and Eat It Too

So, I have some thoughts on the poor behavior of some of the men who live in the world.

I received a message from a guy I went to college with.  We have been friendly for years, but he’s always been flirty.  However, once he started making comments about my body, me losing weight, and my chest (referring to them as “puppies”), I told him to please stop.

I called him out on his behavior, saying his wife probably wouldn’t like that.  He told me he was “rolling his eyes” at my comment.

Okay, but would she?

Well, he can do whatever he pleases on his own watch, but I won’t condone the behavior.  The old Kristin may have played along, and perhaps I would have even been flattered, but not any longer.

I am on the female’s side.

I am ABSOLUTELY sick of the way some married (or attached) men speak to women who aren’t their partners.  Absolutely sick of it.

Wives, girlfriends, and mothers deserve better than the way some of these men act.  This isn’t up for discussion or debate.  If what you said to me made me or another woman uncomfortable, then it’s not acceptable.  We are not “too sensitive.”

If you’re bored and unhappy, leave.  Why did you even get married to begin with?  So someone else can take care of you while you go out and play?

This is one of many reasons I don’t aspire to get married.

There’s my two cents for the day.  Oh, and if I had a dollar for every time something like this happened, I could retire today and buy a house on an island.

Call them out.  Break the cycle. Let them know it’s not okay.  Someone has to.

About Kristin Fehrman

My name is Kristin Fehrman and I am a writer in Boston. I started my blog, Mindful in Style, to share my story with the hope of inspiring others to follow their dreams, discover their purpose, pursue their passions, and use their voice. This is my own story of living beautifully.
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2 Responses to Can’t Have Your Cake and Eat It Too

  1. I, for one, wouldn’t have said that even when I was single. Because it’s rude. And lame. I applaud you, speaking up like that. I know that leads to uncomfortable moments, but passivity is the enemy. It’s enabling. And we’ve all been enabling, with our silence, for far too long.

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    • Yes, it IS rude. So unnecessary. Come on, we aren’t in college any longer; I am not flattered by immature compliments.

      Thank you for your thoughts. ❤️ I have never heard a woman stand up to a man like this, so I had to finally do it and make an example out of him.

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