I’ve been in several situations this past year where I’ve encountered a lot of dishonesty. From guys with girlfriends approaching me to learning that people in my past were lying the entire time, it’s been a hard pill to swallow.
When can you finally trust someone?
What if you kept going back, falling for their sweet talk? What if you’re made to feel like you’re being heartless when you don’t believe their sob stories? When their narcissism wears you down? When their manipulation makes you question yourself?
When they never even told you the truth from day one?
I suppose it makes us more careful when moving forward, though. It makes us pay closer attention to our intuition and those gut feelings that warn us about who to stay away from. Despite learning the worst though, we want to see the best.
But there comes a time when you have to walk away and take care of yourself.
When you do that, please know that it isn’t your fault. When you’re made to think you were in the wrong, don’t listen to them when they try and blame you for their behavior.
Not everyone is able to own up to their truth, and not everyone can have an honest and open relationship- but that’s not your fault. We can love with all our hearts, but if the other person can’t appreciate that or only wants us when we have something to offer them- yet walks away when we need them the most- then it’s time to say goodbye.
Don’t feel bad for setting those people free- it’s for the very best.
It feels good to no longer hold onto the negativity of the past, and to be more conscious of the people around me- but these days it takes a little more time to trust, although I still will always hope for the best.