Today, Time Magazine announced the silence breakers of the #MeToo movement as “Person of the Year.” I couldn’t be happier about this.
For far too long, women haven’t been taken seriously after these emotionally damaging incidents. I know this was the case for me. I learned to keep my mouth shut in fear of the consequences. Even after having the police involved with an incident back in college, people told me it was “my fault” because I had been drinking. This was in 2004, and it certainly wasn’t the last time I would be physically and emotionally attacked by a man.
In the back of my mind, I did start to believe it was all my fault.
Are some men truly that threatened by a women’s power that they must try and strip it away? Do they feel that insecure about their own masculinity that they feel the need to knock us down, disrespect our bodies, and belittle the feminine?
I have encountered abuse in relationships, at the bar from strangers, on the steeet through cat-calls, and in situations where I couldn’t consent. I have thankfully been able to push those memories aside, although many have come back to me through PSTD- especially throughout this past year. Old boyfriends or dates have wondered why I had suddenly “snapped” out of nowhere; I didn’t know why either, until recently. It never occurred to me that old abuse was hidden so deep under my core that it would bubble up out of the blue.
It’s never our fault. I don’t care how intoxicated someone is- it is never okay to be taken advantage of. It is very illegal, and very wrong- yet we were told we were the ones to blame.
Not any longer.
I hope you have the courage to speak up if you have ever been a victim of sexual abuse. We are all in this fight together; your story could help someone share theirs, too.