Thankful for Growth

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Last Thanksgiving in Traverse City, Michigan

It’s hard to believe that this time last year I was getting ready to move to Boston!

Last Thanksgiving I flew into Michigan to plan, pack, and purge.  As I mentioned in my second blog post, I packed extremely light before my move and was well on my way to becoming a full-blown minimalist.  People always laugh and think I am joking when I tell them I consider myself a minimalist, but I don’t know many others who have lived a full year on just one small closet of clothes and no TV, car, or computer (my laptop died a while back, so I’ve been writing on my WordPress app or at the library).  Less has certainly been more… much more.

I used to think “things” made people happy.  In today’s society, how could I not have?  As our nation seems to become greedier, I am more and more turned off by money and excess “stuff.”  After living with what I actually need and nothing more, I’ve become more responsible with my money, time, and space.  I’ve learned to truly appreciate what I do have and treat everything with care.  Minimalism has taught me to be happy with myself- not stuff.

Not only do I treat my things with care, I’ve learned to treat myself with more love and compassion, too.  It has been a fulfilling year of being my own best friend, but also a bit uncomfortable and lonely.  As we go through a spiritual awakening and become the people we are meant to be, we shed old habits, views, and relationships.  It’s been a year of ups and downs, but it’s also been a year of strength. 

I have better learned who I am, what I actually need, and what matters in life.

Before moving nearly one year ago, I spent much of my life listening to outside influences- not my heart.  My intuition always had an answer for me, but I was too nervous to follow its guidance in fear I wouldn’t fit in.  It’s true that I have always felt a little “different,” but now I consider my differences gifts, not flaws.  Today I wouldn’t want to be anyone else.

I used to spend my energy concerned about what other people thought of me- instead of using my creative talents, I hid them.  Instead of continuing projects, I stopped in fear of failure.  Conflicting views and opinions left me confused, anxious, and depressed- so when I moved last year, I decided it was time to stop.  Nobody knew me in Boston, so what did I have to lose?

I can’t control what others say, think, or do- so I might as well stay true to myself.

Although I am staying in Massachusetts this year, I will have my “family of intent” to share Thanksgiving with.  We all have the family we are born into, but we also have special people who are in alignment with our souls.  I consider this my “tribe;” the friends who have encouraged me to write, to be myself, and to follow my heart.  Once I learned to value myself, compatible people and opportunities began appearing in my life.  While much of my past has been shed this past year- old pain, fears, insecurities, and habits, I am so grateful for the new relationships that have helped strengthen and guide me along the way.

This year, I am thankful for growth.

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Thanksgiving Eve 2017, Harvard Yard

About Kristin Fehrman

Boston-based writer. Living beautifully at Mindful in Style.
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9 Responses to Thankful for Growth

  1. Paolo B. says:

    Seems like it’s been a great year of growth for you. Bravo. This posts resonates with me as I’m currently in a transition year. Going to try minimalism slowly as I move into my new space. I’ve been thinking of furnishing it and it’s been stressing me out a bit. Less is indeed more. I can’t do without a computer though I think 😛 Thanks for sharing.

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  3. I enjoyed reading this. I live in Rhode Island and take the train to Boston sometimes to spend the day there. It’s a great place. There’s a lot to do. How long will you be living in Boston?

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    • Thank you! I really appreciate hearing that.

      I will be here indefinitely! Boston has treated me very well. 😊 What do you like to do when you visit? There’s a lot to do indeed!

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      • My favorite place to go is the Boston Museum of Science. Ive been to Fenway Park a few times. A lot of the time i just walk around and see what i run into without a scheduled plan. The train ride is cheap from Providence to Boston so its convenient. Ever been down here to Providence? What do you do for work in Boston?

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      • I haven’t! I would love to visit… I have some friends who went to school at Johnson and Wales. I’ve heard great things! I have been doing marketing for the past ten years, but I am transitioning into teaching and of course, writing.

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      • It’s a very artistic community in Providence. Brown University, RISD, and Providence College are all close together. Which means there are people from around the world in a small community. It’s definitely interesting. Are you looking to become published?

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      • We will see where my path leads!

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