I didn’t understand the concept of “building a solid foundation” until recently. Perhaps I grew up thinking good things just happened, or that certain people were luckier than others. I never considered building a foundation of faith, spirituality, and believing in myself.
A real foundation has nothing to do with what is on the outside.
I’ve learned that everything in life will eventually crumble if you don’t have peace within yourself. After a difficult couple of months, I’ve been relying on faith, positive thinking, and my own foundation of gratitude. Nothing, or no one, can provide the happiness that I need within my own heart.
Money, people and situations come and go, but you will always have yourself. Society tells us that we need the basic essentials to live a fulfilled life: a job, a home, a relationship, and material possessions. Marketing messages flood our minds, leaving us feeling empty, incomplete and unsatisfied. Television shows I used to enjoy, such as “House Hunters,” leave me feeling annoyed with the homebuyers. “Can’t they just be grateful that they’re buying a home in the first place?” I know this is silly, but as I reach deeper into my spiritual self, the outside world confuses me more and more, and the material things seem so meaningless.
Today, I am manifesting a life of stability, safety, and serenity.
Ten years ago I was in the suburbs of Detroit, engaged to be married and living in a beautiful colonial house. Instead of fulfilling my dream to move to New York City that summer of 2007, I moved in with an older boyfriend and started a job as a recruiter in Southfield. My life was seemingly “set.” We spent weekends decorating, grocery shopping, cooking, BBQing, and spending long days on the lake. Yes, we even had a 30 foot boat.
I was miserable.
Although I never got married, I did eventually move to New York (and have lived in six other states, too). I’ve worked a variety of jobs, had many different relationships, owned a variety of things, and have been many places. For ten years, I was on an endless search for my “foundation;” until now. I thought I would suddenly “find” happiness; I didn’t know it was already there.
You need to build your foundation within your own soul.
I’ve talked about running before- running from myself, people, places, and things. After a very difficult and unsteady summer, I promised myself one thing: to stand still. To sit in my discomfort.
To honor my feelings and build a solid foundation within myself.