self discovery

A Sweet Surprise

“Share your aspirations only with those who will support you, not those who will respond with doubt or lack of interest.”


Lately I have been thinking about how fortunate I am to have so many amazing friends, family members, coworkers and creatures all around me.  Whenever I feel alone in the world or start to get down on myself, I have to stop and remember how much love is around me- even though I am not in a relationship.  Instead, I have many different types of meaningful relationships, including the one I am developing with myself.

When I moved to Boston I only knew one person, but that didn’t discourage me from jump-starting a new life and career.  Within the first week of moving here I secured a full time position, found a welcoming place to live and even made some new friends.  Four months later, I am finally feeling “home” in this beautiful New England city- but I never forget the friendships I have made along the way.

The people I have met over the years are very special to me; since I have lived in many different cities across the US, I have met some amazing people from all over the world.  After college I moved to San Francisco, gained my independence away from the comfort of home, fell in love with the Giants and met some of the most inspirational people I have ever known.  I hold the City by the Bay near and dear to my heart, including the people, sports, and businesses in it. In 2012 I discovered a little company called Kika’s, an artisan chocolate company based in SF.  I had mentioned how delicious their treats were to a dear friend, who apparently remembered this years later.

After a hectic day, I came home from work the other evening to find a box in my entryway.  With no idea what it was or who may have sent it, I opened it to find a lovely selection of chocolates- from Kika’s Treats!  The note accompanying it warmed my heart:

“Share your aspirations only with those who will support you, not those who will respond with doubt or lack of interest.”

I could barely remember the name of the delicious chocolates I fell in love with years before, but one of my closest friends did!  His note that came along with the chocolates perfectly described our friendship, and how I have been feeling lately: supported.

Love is not always romantic or passionate- love is kindness and support.  Love is genuine interest, concern and caring for another being.  Today, I am able to see love all around me- from the sun coming up in the morning to a stranger offering me their seat on the bus.  Thanks to the hope of friendship and kind strangers, I will remember to find love and magic through moments of doubt, turn my fear into faith and remember those who support me, not those who doubt my dreams.


By Kristin Fehrman

Live beautifully.

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