FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real


“Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.” -Saint Augustine 

Life becomes a little more magical when you slow down to witness the world around you- minute by minute, hour by hour.  In the past, I used to constantly think about “what is next,” but lately I’ve been embracing the moment by not dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.  My situation hasn’t changed, but one critical thing has:  I’ve changed my attitude.

Overcoming FEAR

The funny thing about fear is that it’s merely a situation created in your own imagination. The event itself that you are fearful of hasn’t even happened; every time you start slipping into your fearful pattern, stop and remember: Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.

I used to take action based on fears, to protect my ego, or to fit in with society expectations.  I ignored what was right in front of me, or what I really wanted, and ultimately missed opportunities in the moment because I was too concerned with the future.

Over the past couple of years I have tried to focus on what makes me happy and have started to finally learn who I am as a person.  My own fears told me all sorts of lies about myself, from not being productive enough at work to not having anything to offer a partner. These were all based on my fear of not being accepted, which stems from being a shy only child.  Through my mindfulness practice and spirituality, I am learning to become my #1 supporter, as it is much easier to love others when you love yourself first.  My fears have started to slip away, and my faith has given me confidence to build relationships knowing that I am valuable.

Developing a strong spiritual foundation is essential to overcoming fear, as you can’t have faith and be fearful at the same time.

Enjoy the journey- there’s a beautiful life ahead of you.


Finding Joy in Your Work


My father always said that work is called work because, well, it’s work.  I have lived on the philosophy that work doesn’t have to be a chore, though- there is a difference. My father has a greater work ethic than anyone I know, and at 70 years old, he still gets up at 4AM to begin his day.  Despite his reasoning that “work is work,” he absolutely loves what he does- and even with long hours and demanding clients, he leaves the house with a smile.

It’s all in the attitude.

They say “do what you love and the money will follow,” but I only agree partially.  I believe that you can love what you do and the money will follow, as well.  Through the years I have had many different types of jobs; from restaurants, law firms, tech startups to jewelry companies. My current role is in software development sales, but I find a common denominator with each and every position- my networking power.  There has been something very rewarding about developing meaningful connections over the years- I still speak with several people from my first post-college job in 2007 (how has it already been a decade?!).

I’m extremely passionate about “connecting the dots” and finding similarities between people. I have always been interested in learning about others, making connections and acknowledging synchronicity.  Nothing gives me greater joy than finding something in common another person; which is one of the many reasons I love writing so much.

Whether or not your day-to-day job is your calling, I believe you can find your passions within anything you do.  Although I am not as well-versed in software as the people I connect with in my job,  I love learning from them, being able to offer a solution and get to know who they are along the way.  Perhaps you can bring your own creative talents to your job and find joy in your work in other ways than listed in your job description.

When you become your #1 supporter and believe in all of the qualities you bring to your work, you open yourself up to a world of new possibilities!


Starting the Week on the Right Foot


Happy Monday!

I started my week a little differently this morning- instead of hopping in the shower to get ready for the day, I decided to take a moment to relax and reflect.  I typically start my days with a little reading, stretching and coffee, but this week I had a realization:

When you’re feeling good, keep doing the things that make you feel good.

After a weekend of recharging, spring cleaning and organizing for the week, I woke up feeling great.  This is dangerous!  It’s so common for me to live on a natural high after I meditate, read or have a good day, only to fall back into a slump when I don’t consistently follow my mindfulness practices.  Instead of pushing through and carrying on with my morning, I stopped to read and journal- in order to keep the good vibes, you must continue to do the work!

I have been reading Gabrielle Bernstein’s Miracles Now as a daily guidebook to follow. Starting today, I decided to journal on each lesson / tool that Gabby teaches (adapted from A Course in Miracles), today’s being “Happiness is a choice I make.”  In addition to each lesson, I am writing down my thoughts on the topic, 5 gratitudes and then, once I get home, journal a few miracles that happened throughout the day.

Typically I like to take a daily inventory each evening, so my “Monday Miracles” for today will list the little blessings, gratitudes or special moments that happened thanks to my morning lesson.  If I start my day with intention, I am opening up to a higher awareness.

I will continue to remember that “happiness is a choice I make” throughout my day- I can’t wait to see how it changes my perception, and how it will improve my spiritual growth in days to come.